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*hrikant
writes:i love a girl and she also likes me but she is in relation with some another guy... i told her what i feel about her and i want to get commited with her and i am not able to forget her im truely and madly in love with her... i told her all this , she told me she would also like to be my life partner but she is already in relationship so she cant ... but she one time says she cant broke up with him and also says she wants me forever .... the way she talk to me i feel she think of other people that what would they think about her who knows about her present relation if she broke it..... we both talk each and every day each an every hour of days we keep talking.... i cried for her she too cried for me she says she cant see me in pain .. im also not able to concentrate on my studies.... she told me she tried to broked up with him but it not happened .... and says that another guy had committed her ..but she told she wont committ till the end i mean not such early .... and yes i was her first bf when i was in 8th std but i was immature at that time i was not knowing anything about this thing so are relation broked in 9th but still i was having the same feeling for her and same for me in her heart but after 10th we where not in contact...then in 11th this another guy proposed her and she accepted him and they are in relationship for 3 yr and i am also waitng for her for 2.5 yrs ... i told her i m ready to wait for her till my end but i want her .... plzzz help me ..
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 Hi. I am sorry you are so much in pain with this girl. She KNOWS you are ion pain, yet contiunes to hurt you like this. Do you really wnat someone like that? I really think you need to start getting used to the idea of not being with her. Are there no other girls you like? Please try and go out and meet other girls. I know what I am talking about, as I have just come out of a relationship that I thought I would never ever get out of, and I thought I wouold love him forever and never even be able to leave him, and was in huge ammounts of pain, I even had to take three weeks off work as I got so depressed .. but the nest advice i got was this ' GO OUT AND MEET NEW PEOPLE' EVEN IF YOU DON;T FEEL LIKE IT- GO OUT' and eventually I took this advice, and went out and meet other guys and now I have met someone I really like. I never ever thought it would get to this point.. honestly. I was really trapped in my love for him, like you are for this girl. You see,all the time she can see you are not standing up to her, she wil contiue to do this and act like this, and when she starts sensing you are pulling away, she may try and convince you she will leave and be with you. Don;t believe her. She is not the only girl in the world. Please try and concentrate on your studies again. I know it;s hard, but try and force yourslef to tlak to ther new girls and go to parites, or a youth club or sports club where you can meet new people. I promise you that by doing that things will change. Maybe not overnight, but with time and effort. Sitting indoors and pining away for this girl will only cause you more and more pain. Eventually, the pain will subside.. over time. Now, try and meet another gilr, be strong, chin up!! This situation wil not last forever.. one day you will look back at it and think' oh, I rememeber when i thought i was in love iwth that girl; and you will smile. Good luck to you . xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): I understand how you feel...It is hard when you realize the person you left actually was the one for you and then facing the fact that they belong to someone else now. It seems she cares for you but only because she knows you like her and want to be with her, however, she also is not going to let her boyfriend, fiance go either. She is a taken woman and if she did not want to commit to the other guy she would get out of it somehow and be with you. In the end, of all the effort you put into risking getting this girl to break up her current commitment to be with you is just that. A dangerous risk and not worth the fight I think. You should focus on your own life and use all this time and energy to make something of yourself. Living in regret is only going to do you harm and if you really love her...you will let her go and just trust that if she was meant to have been yours...she would have by now...good luck and all the best in your studies.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 I think you've wasted enough time on her. She is carrying you around in her back pocket. If you want to spend your time as her plan B then fine, but all that time you could be out there actually finding someone who truly wants to be with you. This girl doesn't.
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reader, ghoku +, writes (18 March 2011):
dude move on. if she loves you over that guy, believe me she, without any doubt will leave her current guy. but that is not the case here.
why not try to move on with your life with out her. dont contact her in any way. this will give her time and space to think about you more and miss you. this might make her realize that you are the one, but you must start the process of moving on for real when you do this, so that whatever outcome it may give you, then you are ready for it.
plenty of fish in the ocean dude.
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