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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and met when we first started university. I love him to bits, get the funny feeling in my tummy when i'm going to see him, get excited when I see his name pop up on my phone, physically miss him when hes not there etc. Since I have started university I have made a heap of new friends majority of them male because I just get along with them better, there is one guy however that has probably become one of my best friends,second to my boyfriend. As we are in the same course I see him pretty often and we have always had good chemistry right from the start and we make each other laugh. Generally we are always having fun. Over the last month or so things with my boyfriend have been a little bit strained as exam time is commencing, stress levels are increasing and even though we still make time for each other, its not as much as normal and sometimes its a little disappointing merely because we are both just so stressed. I know things will return to normal after the exams are over as this is generally what happens around this time. As I have been studying with my friend I have seen him much more lately and we have fun and laugh when we do. Basically my interest in him has peaked a little over the past couple of weeks and I am pretty certain that he is interested in me which makes it a little harder. Im just wondering if I am feeling this way right now because I am not getting the same amount of attention from my boyfriend (through no fault of his) and is it merely a phase because I have been spending so much time with him and we click well. I dont think i have big feelings for this guy as I do not get butterflies when I am going to see him or miss him when hes not there or get excited when he texts me, I just really have fun in his company. Any thoughts? Am I just being stupid?haha
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 I think you are just feeling like this because you have been spending lots of time with him. I know you are a smart girl and you will not cheat on your boyfriend. But you are also going down a dangerous road spending all this time with this other guy, as it is not fair on him if he has feelings for you. I think you need to try and stop spending so much time alone with him, meet up in big groups and remind him that you have a boyfriend.
Exam time is always stressful, you know you still love your boyfriend and that it will be back to normal soon, so try and distance yourself from your new friend a little and concentrate on your boyfriend.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (19 May 2012):
 You have a good relationship with this other guy at uni and thats about it. In your question you basically answered yourself. Obviously exam time is hard cause everyone is so busy and its important to stay focused then make time afterwards. I also think for this guy being interested, if he knows you have a boyfriend i think he will understand the boundaries as usually people don't generally want to go out to be a "homewrecker" or whatever. My advice would be to wait till after exams and enjoy your summer with your boyfriend and if you arent feeling it anymore then obviously act on that, as you dont want to be hasty thinking you like this other guy just because he is kind of new and you enjoy your time with him. Good luck in whatever you decide to do :)
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