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writes: i hate my boyfriend but i love him more than anything in the world! what shud i do? we've been together for about 3 years now. which is a pretty long time. im 15 and hes about to turn 18. when we first me everybody told me not to talk to him or go out wid him cus he was a bad person nd only played girls. but i didnt listen, i went out wid him anyways.. at the beginnin we were great friends nd eventually started fallin in love i guess.. he wud tell me nice things nd respect me and always make me laugh. that went on for a couple months, he used play around nd ask me wen i was gonna give it to him, but i never did. i think we were goin out for a little over a year before we did. i remember i asked him to walk wid me to mcdonalds which was right down the street. dat was wen he told me to convince him... so u can guess wat he meant.. soooo it happend nd i was expectin some mcdonalds... bullshit, he never took me but i was happy cus i loved him but i felt bad for some reason..but i got over it. later on i introduced him to my mom. my mom loved him! i was happy. after one car accident dat he had i asked if he cud sleep over. after a couple months dat he was stayin over i ended up pregnant... i moved in wid him nd dats wen i realized who i was really wid. he was lazy, nasty, and he had other girls!! he even disrespects me, hits me "playin around", threatends me tellin me im only his, even after he tells me he dnt care about me nd dat theres better lokin girls out there... he makes me feel worthlesswat is dat??? through out my whole pregnancy i was like a slave.. i dnt kno wat was wrong wid me. i cried almost everyday.. he told me he wud change over and over and over again, but did he change?? nope. not once. den one day i went thru his fone cus he forgot it in the car. i saw shit i never thought i wud... this destroyed my life, and da little bit of trust i had for him.. i saw him askin girls for "sexy" pics "just for him" so u can imagine wat kinda pics... this hurt me alot.... i later on find out by one of my friends dat he was tryin to talk to her nd dat he ran a train on a girl.. i asked him nd he denied it of courseso he said he wud change after da bby was born.. well now shes here, i love her more than anything nd i wanna give her a good family. instead of stoppin all this chillen here and there, it got worse. he supposively started workin, haha watever he was gettin high nd drunk. hes barely wid da bby nd i caught him sneak out one night at one in the morning to talk to a girl!!!! this hurt me so much.. i didnt know wat to do. i saw it on his fone nd even asked him, can u believe he said "it accidently dialed by itself, check how long it lasted" wow... dat hurt, so i asked who was he talkin to.. he said he was askin a friend if there was work tomoro.. dat was a big fat lie, he was outside for an hour nd he was laughin da whole time...now i have no trust at all.he didnt even change for his daughter so dat shows how much he gives a f*** about anythin. i hate him for so many lies i have cuaght him in personally nd da one my friends and own sister swore to me... they tell me to leave him but wat do i do if i have a daughter of his? shes only 2 months old... wat do i do?? i love him but i hate da life i have... should i leave him?
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I believe you have given your boyfriend too many chances and if he was to change it would have happened long time ago.
It's really hard to advice you leaving the father of your 2 month daughter ,it's hard encouraging you to disrupt a family BUT let's face here, he cheats on you, gets drunk, gets high, doesn't take care of the little one, makes you sad all the time, lies to you and is not reliable on top of all that! do you really want your kid to grow up in such an environment , seeing her mom sad and depressed all the time, how is this gonna affect her personality and shape her confidence?
A family should be the definition of harmony respect love and unconditional love, all that can be provided if your man is not around, cause his presence is damaging everything including your wellbeing! you have all your life ahead , you're young and you can definitely restart your life with someone who can boost your love and takes care of your family. your boyfriend is definitely not the one.
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