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writes:Today me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time, but unprotected my boyfriend kept taking out his penis to check he werent producing sperm , could i be pregnant even if he said no sperm came out? and i bled heavily alot during and after it is this serious
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): Thanks for coming back to us and telling us your situation. We got a little bit worried for you. You've done great kid, I'm sorry you had to go through all this pain, but you've done very, very well. Your not alone, and many other girls have gone through this. But your sensible, you've asked for advice and listened and straightened everything out. I'm sorry he hurt you, I'm sorry he was mean, but you have people arround you that care and they will take care of everything. Don't forget to contact childline if things get too bad, or you need somebody to talk to.
You have made all us aunts happy, and we wish you every sucess and a prosperous and happy life. Thanks for telling us what happened. We're thinking about you, good luck, take care of you. Blessings.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Sweetie, that was very very brave of you, I'm very happy to hear that you are getting the help you need and I really hope everything turns out well for you.
I am so proud of you and I think that you are a very courageous young lady. Big big hugs to you.
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reader, xmisslovettx +, writes (20 July 2008):
xmisslovettx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for youre help again, i went to my nearest NHS walk-in-clinic todayy and went and got an emergancy contrecpetive pill and spoke to the police about it and are going back there during next week to have tests to make surei havent got any diseases
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2008):
Wow, that is terrible to hear. You must be very upset. I wish I had known that he had forced you. It may be that he's hurt you because you weren't really ready for sex at all. So I think it would be a good idea to call the childline number I gave you in my first answer to you; they can help you decide what you need to do.
If you think your parents will be supportive of you, even if they are angry at first, I think you should also tell them, so that you can be seen by a doctor soon.
Sorry about my lecture, but we didn't know that you were forced to have sex. That is not a good thing at all, as you know now. Please call childline.
Call ChildLine on 0800 1111.
www.childline.org.uk
Consider telling your parents or maybe there's an aunt or a trusted family friend you can talk with?
Please take care.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Oh girl :( You do know that "he kind of forced it on me" is rape?
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reader, xmisslovettx +, writes (20 July 2008):
xmisslovettx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy boyfriend was a virgin to and i didnt want o have ex to begin with he kind of forced it on me. but thnakyou for all youre help
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reader, sarah w +, writes (20 July 2008):
 i do not wish to alarm you but you realy do need to make an appointment with your doctor on birth control,and a pregnancy test,and if this was not your partners first time then i recomend you both seek sexual advice.sex is a wonderfull experience when both partners are ready and are in a loving and trusting relationship,enjoy each other but take precautions.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2008):
Hi, I'm not going to lecture you now on the dangers of unprotected sex, other aunts have done that here. It may be that the bleeding you describe could be the result of your hymen breaking. It could also be something else, I have no way of knowing and I am NOT a medical professional.
Now I am going to tell you that if you are having sex, it is time that you make an appointment to see a gynecologist to have yourself checked out and also be advised by a medical professional on the options you have for birth control and also on the risks of sex. Having sex is a mature adult activity, and if you feel you are ready to have sex, then you need to behave like an adult and take the proper steps to ensure you are fully knowledgeable about it, in order to protect your health, your future fertility and also that of any partners you may have.
You are underage for having sex, and the worry you're having now is a combination of not having all the facts, and that your body and your psyche aren't quite ready for sex just yet.
Douching with anything as I understand it is not generally recommended, and you should consult a medical professional before using any specific solutions inside your vagina, as it is a delicately balanced environment. In fact, douching increases your risk for vaginal and pelvic infections.
http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/pelvic-inflammatory-disease-prevention
http://www.webmd.com/skin-beauty/features/intimate-grooming-what-you-need-know
http://women.webmd.com/tc/abnormal-vaginal-bleeding-check-your-symptoms
Remember that most of the people here are NOT medical professionals and relying on their advice might not be in the best interests of your health and future fertility. From what I understand, douching is NOT recommended as it may create more problems than it theoretically might solve.
Again, If you are ready for sex, you are responsible for your own health care and you need to see a gynecologist now. Tell your mother or father that it is time for you to be checked out, and as soon as possible.
I would suggest that you contact the number that DiovanLestat has provided. Also there is another number or website that you could call to discuss the worries with a counselor.
Childline-Most famous kids Charity in the UK with a very child-friendly website. Which is handy as many kids might feel too shy to use the freephone number.
Childline deal with all sorts of problems involving kids. Quote from their website:
”You can talk to ChildLine about anything - no problem is too big or too small.
If you are feeling scared or out of control or just want to talk to someone you can call ChildLine.
Some of the things that people phone about are feeling lonely or unloved, worries about their future, problems about school, bullying, drugs, pregnancy, HIV and AIDS, physical and sexual abuse, running away and concerns about parents, brothers, sisters and friends, and crimes against them.
Whatever your worry, large or small, we're here to offer advice and support. When you are ready. “
Call ChildLine on 0800 1111.
www.childline.org.uk
Take care, and remember to be sensible about birth control. It is your life and your future that you are playing with; no joking around here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): Sorry Doctor Solutions, but I beg to disagree. The alternative solution is that Douche's are not recommended in the UK.
You don't want to do that. You really need to find out more about your body. The recommended advice in the UK is not to use a douche (which is a bag to put into your vagina with a pipe on top. You fill the bag with water and then squirt the water up) Please don't do that, the doctors say that it may cause infections and we don't want to do that. Your sore inside, well of course you are, he had to break down a wall and expand your insides. Everything will get to normal. Get some baby oil and rub arround your legs, backside and your the outside of your vagina, that will help you to relax and get some soreness out.
If neither he or you have a disease, then vaginal blood is clean, the sperm is clean and there is nothing to clean up. The vagina cleans itself honey, it can stretch to give birth with no trouble at all, it dosen't need no cleaning and I don't think you want anything up there again right now... LOL
Go to the doctors, only a doctor can help with a sexual disease. DOCTOR SOLUTIONS YOUR ADVICE IS DANGEROUS AND VERY, VERY WRONG. PLease mail me private, and please, please stop advising teenagers from the UK, your advice is not relevant and not consistant with our laws and resources in cases such as these.
After you go to the clinic, Just have a bath, get some chocolates and watch a movie and things should be alright. Telephone the NHS and see if my advice is wrong. The have doctors and nurses available, go and ask them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): Hi xmisslovettx,
Sorry everyone but this answer is long, so maybe you should read ahead.....
Your post has made me as mad as hell, and since you asked I will try to explain exactly what is going on. You decided to have underage sex, well now your a woman, congratulations, and now I shall treat you as such.
You Present as aged 13-15 (underage) and currently living in the UK. You are no longer a virgin, you have had underage sex. Underage sex is currently illegal in the UK. UK law allows your boyfriend to be put on the Sex Offenders Register, under a charge of "sex with a minor", he can probably also recieve an "Asbo" and be banned from ever seeing him again. If your partner is older, the pentalty is very severe.... Options that are availabe to the police include a jail sentance or in extreme cases a lifetime in a mental hospital, held untill he is no longer a danger to little kids.
Please update us with the age of your boyfriend, and we will have ideas on what you can do. Don't worry there are some good solutions to remedy you and your boyfriends stupidity.
You had unprotected sex with your boyfriend, listen girlfriend, that was REALLY, REALLY, DUMB.... You had sex, but neither you or your boyfriend had enough sense to protect you from pregnancy, and possible disease. Unless he was a virgin too or he slept with only virgins, you don't know where he's been. Who has he been having sex with apart from you? YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO HAVE SEX. BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR DOING. You have been stupid, but as I said there maybe solutions too.
Yes I am angry, yes I am mad, because now you got to go to a clinic. Unless you know your boyfriend is a virgin too, you might have a sexual disease. Sexual diseases are fun, the best, is that one called HIV and Aids. Hell it's frightening that you could die for your little bit of fun. NEVER, EVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM AGAIN, unless the guy is a virgin, or you are settled down, with him long enough, to be sure his safe.
Could you tell your mother what you have done. Well you just might have to do that. You boyfriend is not a doctor, he can't see or feel if you have any sperm in you. Only a doctor can know. Unless you want to have a baby at your young age, I think you should run to your doctor as fast as you can. Stop having sex untill you educate yourself about your body, you should soon have sex education coming up. Tell your young friends the same thing I've said, so at least they will know how dangerous underage sex is.
When you lost your hymen he broke your virginity, your hymen is a piece of skin that is broken when the penis enters you, that's why you bled (and no men and boys don't bleed as well.... LOL) You feeling a bit sore, well go and have a relaxing bath, it should feel more comfortable as time goes on. You bleed because either your hymen was thick, (some women don't even have one) or he was rough, he was stupid and he hurt you. If this is the case you must be disappointed with the whole thing. Was it worth the risk?
I've talked to much, and we're running out of time. Get your watch, you really got to run. We don't have much time, you don't want your mother to find out. Your living in the UK, that's good. The NHS has a good service for teenagers who need to see somebody about pregnancy and contraception.
RUN, RUN, RUN.... You have 72 hours. They can give you a pill. They have a morning after pill that you can take. Even if he think he thinks he spilled no seed we can't be sure. Men have something called "pre-come", as soon as they get exited some seed may come out. It only takes one sperm and then your pregnant. I don't like those odds, boys and men have millions.
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support. You need to hurry, go earlier don't go later. Please stop having sex and get some education. Phone the people at the NHS, they will help and everything will go well.
Good luck, I wish you well... Blessings and use condoms next time. Remember you only have 72 hours.
Next UK teenager in the queue.... Please come straight along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): Why do you think it's called UNPROTECTED sex? Yes, you could be pregnant. Oh and you could have any number of sexually transmitted diseases (herpies, HIV, and so on). Why is it you don't seemed concerned about that in addition to pregnancy - did your boyfriend get tested and show you his results before you had sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): There's always a chance of being pregnant when you have unprotected sex.Your boyfriend was wrong.Sperm always comes out during sexual intercourse.They're just so small that you can't see them.So you could be pregnant.Take a pregnancy test and wait for your period.And as for the bleeding,it is caused by the breaking of the hymen when you
have sex for the first few times.
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