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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been on and off with my boyfriend for about a year. He has been back and forth between me and this girl. This is why we are always on and off. Finally, I thought it was all over and done with. He was commited to me and I didn't think I had to worry anymore. I spent my whole summer with him, until he cheated on me with another girl. I eventually took him back and that's when I learnt I was pregnant.In a way I was glad, I thought, "okay, no more of this nonsense, he's tied to me now" At first he was really happy. He was always really happy, until we got into a fight and he would scream Abortion.Eventually I had too look at the ultimatum. I didn't want my baby growing up with a father like that and in that bad enviroment and after all we are still young. We got into a big fight and he told me to get an abortion, so I did. I was done playing games. I got an abortion last wednesday, me and my boyfriend haven't spoken since. As far as he's concerned. I am still pregnant.I talked to his mother today, and he told me he had skipped town with his ex girlfriend. Then I saw comments that he left her, telling her he loved her. It hasn't even been a week yet? Like keep it in your pants. I'm going through the pain and the suffering over my abortion all alone - and that's how I feel all alone. I don't know what to do anymore.. what did I do to deserve all of this?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (1 September 2009):
 You picked a guy who can not commit, then you thought you could "snag" him and "make" him stay because you got pregnant. It rarely works in reality.
Learn from this mess. Next time do not play the on again off again with a guy, either it's on or it is not. Or you will end up feeling like a doormat.
I would also suggest you seek some counseling. Having an abortion is a bit toll emotionally, you need to learn how to deal and cope with this by yourself, obviously your ex is useless.
Remove his phone number, block him from your face-book, e-mail, text whatnot and move on. Her quite clearly has. He is an immature jerk, rejoice that he is out of your life.
It is time for you to start living. Also, get birth control and when you find a new boyfriend ( cause that will happen sooner or later) use a condom as well.
Chin up
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): I don't mean to cause offense here, but that is a callous way to think of a human life.
Abortions to me should be the last resort. The absolute last thing to do when every single other avenue has been persued.
Just because you got pregnant to a coward, does not mean that kid wouldn't have lived a happy life. Plenty of kids do.
Now, that aside, in future do NOT let yurself ever get manipulated into such a terrible act simply from fear or the need to appease someone else.
You have a lot of growing to do, so stay away from sex until you are old enough to understand what you have done and why you shouldn't have unless circumstances were much more dire.
Flynn 24
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