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writes:Ok so, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years of and on but now we're engaged and I'm so jealous and I don't know how to stop. I mean I love him to death but he talks to all these other gurls on myspace and calls them babe and stuff like that I don't know how to make him stop he saya he loves me and wants to love me forever, and me have his kids. He is my everything I don't want loose him, HELP me PLEASE,
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 It sounds like you're both too young to think about marriage. For one thing, he hasn't committed to only you, otherwise if he had've, he wouldn't still be chatting it up so friendly with so many other girls on myspace. P.S. myspace is just a way to hook up anyhow. Does that tell you anything? I think you should let him go and date around. You need to know what else is out there before you ever talk about marriage again. Good luck.
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reader, Rae1031 +, writes (2 February 2009):
If your boyfriend wants to marry you, yet hangs on to his other "friends" that clearly are not just friends and would not want to continue a friendship with him if they knew about you then this is very disrespectful on his part. He is asking you to devote the rest of your life to him, should he not show a little bit of devotion in return? You also are not jealous for questioning him about this, you are smart! You need to let him know here and now before you marry him exactly what you are expecting out of him. If, like most women, you are expecting him to give up his "flings", you will probably need to talk to him and make this clear. Believe it or not, even though you may be taking it for granted that he is going to do this on his own, he is also taking for granted that since you have not said anything about it you apparently don't mind and this is fun to him, so he will not stop on his own. If you have talked to him and explained to him that now that you are preparing to make commitments and spend the rest of your lives together, you are going to expect him to modify his on-line behavior and he has a problem with this or tells you that you are jealous for expecting this from him, then he is not showing any respect for your feelings. He is still very immature and you should probably postphone the wedding until he is ready to acknowlege that getting married does not just mean that he will now have a women in his life to love, honor and respect him. Period. Marriage is about mutual respect and comprimise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Ok how old are u for starters? ur thing says ur 16-17 which is waaay too young to even think of marriage and having eachothers babies. Well...u can think about it all u want but actually doing it is a completely different story. If u love him for HIM (including his unacceptable behavior on myspace) then fine, marry him and have his children. But if u are already nit picking him he is not worth ur time. He is talking to other girls calling them babes. Get with the times...this kind of behavior was acceptable in the days of King Charles, not the 21 century when women can actually vote for a change. If u want to put things into perspective of what ur life will become watch THE DUTCHESS!
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