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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I found out that my boyfriend cheated when we were going through a bad patch at the end of last year. Bascially there was a chance I was going to have to move away and having both been in long distance relationships before (his which caused many arguments and ended in a nasty break up) we didn't really want to do the long distance thing as we just saw it as the beginning of the end and having only been together a few months at the time I wouldn't allow him to up root and come with me. Anyway, just before Christmas I got a pemanent position so was delighted (as was he) that I would be staying. Things then went back to being absolutely brilliant. But the other day I found out that during the time he thought I was going to be moving away he met a girl on a night out and they went out on a date and kissed. Around the time this happened I did confront him about this girl as he was getting loads of texts off her and I thought it was strange, but he told me I had nothing to worry about. There was also a 3 day period where he didn't text me at all, and ignored one of my texts for a day and during this time he became friends again with his (bad break up, long-distance) ex on Facebook, which I am a bit suspicious about. Anyway, during this time I too was feeling confused so was texting/flirting with some guys, but would never have taken it as far as to meet up with them. So even though I know he has cheated (and judge me as you will) I have decided to forgive and forget as I think I know and understand why he did it. But the thing that worries me is that he lied about the girl he went on a date with and of course that he had no problems going on the date and kissing her!So bascially is he a cheat I should be worried about? And should I just forget about it all and not confront him or let him know that I know? I would rather not confront him as I have decided that it is forgiveable (sort of!) and don't want to upset our relationship again as (apart from finding this out) it is going really well. Also, he might think I am a doormat and he can do it again and I'll forgive him (which I definitely would not). But then if I don't confront him he will think he is a fantastic lier and has got away with it and I am pretty stupid for belieiving him and not picking up on the clear signals! Also, he made a whole load of new years resolutions on how to become a better person and keeps saying that he can see how he use to be a bad person but wants to change with my help. He also recently told me about how he mistreated his ex and how it came back to bite him in the **** last Christmas, which he has learnt a valuable lesson from. Anyway, sorry for the long blabberying but your opinions would be appreciated please! Thanks.
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