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I found a condom that was supposedly from over a year ago but the lubricant was wet on the ouside of the condom!?

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Question - (23 March 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My Mother in Law has been trying to sabotage my relationship with my husband ever since she realized how much he was interested in me. I even have a hard time believing the things she does to us.

The other day me and my husband were moving furniture and boxes from his parents house into our new house. I already warned him that the box of stuff his mother had boxed up from his dresser drawers were going to have stuff in there that she put in there to piss me off, because she had previously gone through his drawers and emptied all the stuff into a box and said that I couldnt look through it when he was out of town and I was moving some of his stuff that he asked me to move. He had even told me to go through his drawers and throw out junk so I know he wasnt trying to hide anything--he hasnt lived with his parents for over a year now.

So when me and my husband opened the box of course at the top of the box was a condom wrapper opened. It had wet lubricant on the outside of the package.

My question is how long will that lubricant stay wet? I'm pretty sure she planted it because she sure didnt deny it--she just changed the subject when I confronted her. I just want to know if it's possible for that condom to have been opened more than a year ago..since it still had that lubricant feel..I'm pretty convinced it was recently opened.

My question is how long can that lubricant stay wet for?

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A female reader, Dawnie United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2008):

Dawnie agony auntYour Mother-In-Law sounds pretty nasty, wanting to cause all this misery for her son. I know they can have a reputation for being meddlesome but yours takes the biscuit. You need to say what you feel to your husband and deal with her together. If she can't behave appropriately then you might be better steering clear of her as much as possible. Good luck.

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (23 March 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntWater based lube, which is what is almost certainly used on condoms, doesn't stay wet long. Hell, it starts to dry up when it is used!

A full year exposed to the air? Bloody unlikely.

Tell your husband about it but be gentle, let him come to his own conclusions. He has eyes and if you don't force him, just tell him what is going on, then he will see for his selfe how his mother is behaving and hopefully take action.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008):

The only issue with what is quite clearly constant sabotage of your relationship by your Mother in Law is that you and your husband actually do start to let it affect your relationship. I think you might need to ask your husband to be a little more proactive to support you? If you have 'joint strength' on this matter she will not ever manage to do what she is really trying to....split you up. If you don't, and your husband stays oh so quiet it will start to get to you and your lack of respect for your husband just 'putting up with this situation' will cause big problems. This is what happened to me for 10 years of marriage. The alternative of course is to laugh, make a note of every single stupidity this woman carries out and send it back to her with a Christmas Card saying "congratulations - another year of your wasted effort". On a more serious note (and this is what I was forced to do eventually) was that I never saw her again. My husband did. I didn't. That way she never undermined me again.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (23 March 2008):

Danielepew agony auntDear poster, this is an easy one. No lubricant can't stay wet for that long. Of course it was planted recently.

Don't let this woman get to you. The mere fact that you ask the question makes me see that you're beginning to doubt your husband.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008):

Crazy mothers-in-law are not a new phenomenon, and if yours is anything like the one I used to have you'll have a hard time not giving her a bunch of fives to the nose.

I've no idea how long the lubricant would stay wet for, but I doubt very much it would be as long as a year. I suppose the only way you could 'scientifically' find out would be to open a new one and see how long it takes to dry out.

I think if I were you I'd post it back through her letter box with a note telling her she might need it more than you do. Or I suppose you could use it and tie a knot in it before posting it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008):

listen, your mother in law planted that condom.


Its obvious you n ya partner have a good relationship, its also obvious that his mom hates it. you and your partner need her out of your life, fast. trust me its the only way besides her getting psycho treatment.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008):

It can't stay wet for long.

Jeez, she's so overprotective. You need to tell her that she's going the right way about ruining her son's life if she carries on (even though YOU know you guys won't break up, but SHE doesnt know that does she :] evil thing).

She's supposed to love her son and want the best for him, but he's trying to cause trouble between him and you! You've gotta tell your husband to talk to her about this - it can't go on. She's crazy!

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