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writes:I feel really alone, down, vulnerable and emotional right now.My boyfriend of one year dumped me and asked me to leave the house we shared (he paid all the bills etc). We shared an amazing bond and I really feel that I won't find a relationship with the same bond. The only downfall in that relationship was that we lacked in passion.He recently initiated that he wanted to be friends, I took it the wrong way and ended up looking and feeling like the biggest fool in the world, and he's not talking to me now.I was dating a guy for 6 weeks, which ended a week ago when he physically assaulted me. I have just walked away from the relationship, with no contact to him. The police were involved and he's not allowed near me anyway.I haven't been single really since I was 16, I've always had a boyfriend.I feel weak and alone without a man to rely on, I miss cuddles, I know it's so pathetic but it's how I feel.I have good friends but they are all married or have children, they can't afford to go out drinking and doing the things I want to do, or just don't have an interest in it.I feel down about myself, I feel like a bad person, I feel ugly, I feel fat. I know I am none of these things, but I can't help but feel it. I hate myself right now.
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reader, tsurugi-ijin +, writes (23 March 2008):
 The best thing ive found from being in one big break up and watching my family is that to be able to get another passion is a good thing, painting, starting a sport. Anything to try to help let some of the feeling out.
Also writting down your feelings helps, not just on here, i know it might sound silly coming from a kid my age but a diary helps no end, you can vent and know no one can read it.
if you ever need some one to vent to im happy to listen and anymore help i can give.
All the Best, Jin
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reader, Bean317  +, writes (22 March 2008):
I know it hurts and its hard. Don't stop telling yourself that "I know I'm not those things" Give yourself some time to heal...focus on you. Find a hobby, take a class somewhere (dance, cooking, art, anything and you'll make new friends). You can't make a new relationship happen. And I know it's corny sounding but you have to be content with yourself and love yourself before you can expect someone else to. You're a strong person, capable of self-sustaining and being happy. Hang in there girl
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reader, gabba's say +, writes (22 March 2008):
 It can be hard adjusting to being single after a long relationship. I recently came out of an 8 year one so I know the feeling. You never know what is around the corner, I am sure you will meet somebody new.
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