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*nnkp
writes:I feel so jealous when my boyfriend looks at other girls, we have 2 children together an we are both in our 20's. I no i dont have much confidence and low self esteem but i really need and want to change i feel so depressed and stupid all the time when i make comments like why are you looking at her or is she pretty. It is not fair on myself or the children to be like this please give some advice no real ways to try and change
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reader, Annkp +, writes (30 March 2010):
Annkp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking time to reply i notice that all responses have true and these are comments that i av already thought of iv got just stop this and get some help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): The fastest and easiest way to get over it, is to ask your partner to stop staring at other women while in your company. Its rude of him and will affect how you feel about yourself. If hes standing with his mouth open because hes just seen "Woman!" its not very cool for you or them. Next time you go out with Ugg, wear something revealing. Let men stare at you. Then if he doesnt like it, explain those men are the same as him, sad lol.
I looked into it and found a study done that revealed most men with the staring problem are bottom of the pond feeders/losers that admire what they feel they can never have. And they spend as much time staring at attractive men as they do women. They admire the men and wish they could be like them. The staring sort arent and never will be Alpha males. They just admire Alpha males and the sort of women they feel Alpha males can attract. Hes showing himself up to be a loser by staring. Alpha males dont need to stare. They have it all on a plate anyway, its not stare worthy to them. Women are more attracted to the confident Alpha type btw, so i dont think any women will be wanting to run off with your Ugg. They will see him perving at them while hes with you and his children and just think hes a bit of a saddo lol. Stop worrying about it and just think happy thoughts and smile at other men alot. Ugg will get the message x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): I feel for you... find ways to boost your self-esteem. Do things to self-improve you. That's is the real problem...
See, men are always going to look, but if you are self confident it won't bother you.
Now, if he is doing it in a way that is disrespectful to you then talk it over, tell him what bothers you and tell him you don't want him to continue doing it.
If he continues, I would then consider the whole relationship. Maybe you are better off alone, or maybe your insecurity is not about you but about the fact that you are not married to him and you fear that he could walk out on you at any moment. If that's the case, consider an ultimatum. If he is not with you for the long haul... move on girl!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 March 2010):
If you have low confidence, then you would be best off getting counselling. It could be that you're suffering from depression, or you're just very unhappy in general. If you speak to your doctor, they might give you a referral to an NHS counsellor. You need to find out why you're so insecure and depressed, then you can address the problems.
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