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female
age
30-35,
*admommy1976
writes:I am having another problem, our first problem ballooned to a nightmare. My first blog was that I am 7 months pregnant and found nude pix of his ex and him on his computer, he did not want to get rid of them and days later he said he did, and hated me. When I hit my 3rd trimester, we celebrated by me crying like I never had before and him angry at me. I went away for the weekend to see a friend, and though he was being nice when I left he was being distant and I felt something was up, but hoped the weekend would put things back as they should. When I returned there was love and kisses, but my instincts were alert. Candles had been placed around the house, he had not really tried to contact me at all, which is not him, and some of his stories were not consistant. I woke up and smelt perfume in bed, and I don't wear perfume.. however, that may have been paranoia and/or a passing street fragrance. I believe he would not actually cheat on me, but I looked on his phone, as I needed to know what was up. I saw he had reached out to this waitress that he always hits on.. that has been an issue for 2 years. He was trying to make plans with her and sent her a X. I almost vomited. He was opening himself up to someone else. I confronted him, he first tried to hide it and then cole notes to what he said 'so what, I need women in my life and your attitude is not attractive and I am not happy. ' So what am I to say? I just moved in with him, having a baby in 3 months and this pregnancy has been so hard, not because of physical but him, his anger and his selfish sneaky behavior. He owns nothing, but is currently extremely cold to me and constantly putting me down. I feel like whenever my back is turned he is doing something, and he is ready to explode on me. I dont feel safe, I dont know what to do, I just want things to be okay, I am not sleeping at night and I fear the welfare of this child. As he pushes his anger on me, I feel our child kicking inside, it just breaks my heart. If he cant be here for me now, what happens when I really need him?
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reader, louxxlouxx  + ♥, writes (30 September 2008):
 I know it is a terrifying thought but I think you may be much better off seperating to relieve you of all this stress. You won't be doing your baby any favours by staying in a miserable relationship just for the sake of having 2 full time parents. You will both do a much better job of raising this child in a civilised non-romantic relationship. I think you need to sit him down, talk it through and explain that you are miserable and that your relationship just isn't working. Make it clear that he can have regular access to your baby and you want him to play an active role in your child's life but the only way you are going to be good role models in his/her life is by being happy with your own lives!If you really want to make this relationship work then maybe consider taking a break through this last section of your pregnancy so that you have time to cool down and be free from stress and rely on friends and family for support then discuss counselling after the birth of your baby.Only you can make this decision but what you need to think about is what is the best thing for you and your baby. Good luck! x
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