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I feel like I’m being jerked around and not sure what to do

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Question - (12 May 2018) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 May 2018)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dating dilemma. Met a woman online about a month ago. She lives about 100 Miles from me and we seemed to hit it off and met up for a date, and I went there and spent the weekend with her.

We had a great time and she said she was very interested and would like to get together again but it still hasn’t happened. Normally I would assume she wasn’t interested and stop pursuing her but she texts me multiple times a day asking about how I’m doing and sharing things about her day and what’s going on and sending cute pics and whatever.

When I ask about getting together she has said she’s either super busy with work or isn’t feeling well or forgot she made plans with friends, etc. I got mad and told her I feel like I’m wasting my time pursuing her when she won’t give me the time of day and if she

isnt interested then just tell me.

She says she swears she is and has just had a lot going on but can’t even let me know when she’s open.

I feel like I’m being jerked around and not sure what to do

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 May 2018):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with N91,

Give yourself a time limit and see what happens. Pull back a bit and see if she takes initiative to meet up again or not.

Honestly, though?

It sounds like she is looking to see what else is out there and keeping you as a spare (in case she doesn't find "better"). Now I get being busy and all, but... IF she was really interested she would find a way to meet up, she would even suggest a date (meet up) a week or two ahead. If you know what I mean.

Sounds like she has an excuse for everything.

Getting to know you better (as in - in person) is NOT a priority for her.

THAT is my guess. I would wish her well and just block her and move on.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (12 May 2018):

N91 agony auntWell that depends how much of your time you have to spend on her.

If you think she’s messing you around then she probably is. If she REALLY wanted to see you, I’m pretty sure she could have one weekend in the upcoming few months that she could put aside to seeing you.

I understand what you’re saying though I have had similar in the past where I thought a situation wasn’t going somewhere so I’d leave the conversation to fizzle out then within a day or two would be getting messages again and then it would lead to the same boring conversation over and over.

How long do you want to give up to this situation? Set your time scales and make a decision where you go from here.

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