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writes:I really need help dealing with an old friend. I feel destroyed, stupid and confused over someone I used to be friends with. For the past two and a half years since I last saw and spoke to him, I constantly think about him and stalk his Facebook. But my stupid stalking has led me to see that he now has a girlfriend and seeing him with her in his pictures makes me feel sick for some reason. I feel devastated and so stupid. All those signs that I thought he made were I believed that he might feel the same way were all just my imagination. He knocked my confidence and self esteem down a lot so why do I still feel this way, I should hate the idiot but I cant. Iv messaged him before in the past but he just ignores me and doesn't care.What can I do now? Iv tried many times to move on and taken so much advice but still no luck. I feel sick and it hurts. Sucks having emotions. I would be very grateful to anyone who reads this or helps.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the advice. Yh sorry forgot to mention that I had gay feelings for him. I have blocked him on Facebook I just hope I can avoid unblocking him and checking his page.I just don't understand why I still feel like this, I should be over him by now. Feel so sick and cant seem to sleep at the moment.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 January 2013):
 I think reality set in. You have spend the last 2 1/2 year creating a fantasy relationship with this guy. It's called a crush. It happens and it can be rather devastating when it's unrequited.
Block him, unfriend him, do whatever you need to do to remove him from your life. This "stalking" is not healthy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): I wish you had given more details to the problem,we could have helped you better!
1)First off why did you both drift apart
2)Second he led you on?does that mean you were attracted to him!?
If he puts your self esteem down then y would you want a person like that around,I know its hard to just cut them off but that's exactly what you have to do now!
Take your delete his number,go to ur facebook take him off ur friends list,block each n everything till you forget this person!start a new chapter..its a new year!ur soo young u don't have the time to waste on a man who doesn't even care about you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): i'm going to assume you have/had feelings for this friend. if so, i can kind of relate. i had a girlfriend that couldn't split from her 'first love' ex for anything, even though he cheated on her, repeatedly. i helped her separate from him and she told me she would never talk to him again. months later i found out she'd been talking to him the whole time and i felt like she had been lying to me about falling in love with me because she couldn't even leave him for us. it still bugs me today and everytime i see her pictures online and who likes them for that matter, i just want to stab her with a fork... anyway, one thing i've tried is to not talk to her first. if she wants to explain or even cared at all, she'll reach me (sometimes she does, but not often). another thing i do is 'play dead.' i log out of my facebook and shut off my phone for a day to just calm myself down or find something to do to make me feel better (i paint). you can try those. over time they may help you detach a little. hopefully they help. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): You need to stop looking at FB. He has moved on, and so should you. Concentrate on meeting new people and developing new relationships. Connecting with new people will help take your mind off him if you also stop looking at his FB
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