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writes:My partner (of 1 year) has just left me because he can't deal with my severe PMT (which I've suffered with for 15 years). I get very stroppy and quite aggresive - I have lashed out and hit him on 3 occasions. I have 2 children who have become very close to him and are also suffering. I have recently started a course of Evening Primrose and B complex vitamins. I love him so much, and wish I hadn't acted in this way. I never meant to hurt him and I want him back. What can I do? I'm feeling so low. I feel as though I lose everybody close to me through my tantrums. Please help. Reply to this Question |
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 November 2007):
 First make an appointment with your doctor and discuss this. He/she can direct you to the help you need whether it may be medication or counseling or both. This is a serious problem and should be addressed immediately especially since there are children involved. Good luck and let us know how things are going.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Hi
Sorry to hear about your ordeal. Have you tried some counselling to help you cope better with your tantrums? I think you should seek help and conquer this as it will start to take over your life and you would have no control over it if you leave it for much longer. You would end up lonely if you dont get help.
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (13 November 2007):
 Hi,
I am really sorry to see you going through this.
Yes, it will be hard for you to maintain a relationship, we men are notoriously non confrontational in relationships, and it is hard to stay with someone who is aggressive be it mentally or physically.
Hopefully some of the ladies here can offer advice on coping with your PMT but have you sought professional help? You need to address these problems as you know that you will never be able to have a comitted relationship with a man if you physically assault them.
It is unlikely your boyfriend will want to come back to you unless you can demonstrate that you have control over your temper. Being hit by a partner whether it be male or female is a humiliating experience so you cant expect your man to come back unless you have sorted this out.
Seek help, I really hope you find a solution and are able to control your anger in future. Then you can join the rest of us who just sulk and mumble when we get annoyed by our partners.
All the best.
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reader, sofiamorgan +, writes (13 November 2007):
 I can relate to this problem, not through PMT but because I have a bad temper. I was pushing people further and further away because I was lashing out at them all the time. It took me the break up of a friendship to realise I needed to do something, it's good that you have realised yourself.
What I do is I tend to go for a walk and think things over in my head. I also go use exercise as a way of venting my anger/frustration. This may not be what you need to do but find something that helps to take your mind off things.
I also say to people 'now is not a good time' and they understand and leave me be.
I don't know if any of this is good for you, but I hope its given you some food for thought.
Hope all turns out well.
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