| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: ive been involved with a lad for 7 months even though i knew he had a girlfriend of 4 yrs.we met and had a chemistry and instantly fel for each other but he didnt have balls to break up with his girlfriend.the guilt killed me and i still feel bad for our relationship.we snuck about and lied about our affair for months.i got drunk recently and ended up telling the girlfriend everything,now she and him are finished because of me and they both hate me.he turned nasty to me once he realised his secret was out.i really regret this and dont no what to do.i still have a lot of feelinds for this fella and im finding it hard to know what to do in this situation.right now im getting the blame and the girls friends family and him have it in for me even though i had the decency to tell her.was this wrong thing to do?
View related questions:
affair, drunk Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 In exposing your lover as a cheater you also exposed yourself as the one who facilitated the cheating. So stop acting like an injured bird and take your medicine and take responsibility for your choices. If you weren't so self-centred you would have been able to predict these responses to your actions.
The truth will set you free, but it is not the freedom you were expecting. In this case, your opportunity for freedom comes only when you leave this sorry mess of man behind and start working on building a sense of self-respect so that you never again feel the need to settle for sloppy seconds from a cheater.
Good luck and take care.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): No if i was that girl i would be deep down happy that atleast someone told the truth, dont get yourself all worked up, and i would not worry about that guy he would probably cheat on you if you 2 started dating "once a cheater always a cheater" theorectically he was cheating on you aswell.
...............................
|
