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writes:hello i was just wondering what everyones opinion on this guy would be.Its a man that my friend is somewhat talking to and we cant seem to figure him out. ill call him J.So for starters she is in a relationship and has been for the past three years with the same man and J knows that. her ex boyfriend who still to this day wants to be with her is friends with J and has told J numerous times that she is the love of his life and wants her back. J and my friend have never met in person and they have only talked on the phone a handful of times, they just constantly text.Due to J being friends with her ex and through conversations with her, he knows that her relationship is very problematic and so he trys to convince her to break up with her man and be single so he can talk to her.She does kind of like J unfortunately... She says the reasoning behind her liking him is because they have so much in common and have great conversations and that he makes her smile so much because hes so sweet.Now, in my opinion hes a player. he may be a good talker and all that but he has shown several red flags. he sent her naked pics within the first week if them talking and you could tell the pics had been on his phone because they had different backgrounds and the shaving was different in each one....so to me that means he keeps those pictures ready to send to whoever.next on his facebook there are tons of girls all the time.he even told her a status was about her and it said something along the lines of talking to this beautiful girl and some other girl commented it and said i love the talk were having and he said me too!! He also uses pet names all the time never her name. and the majority of the time they talk is late at night. shes also asked him to meet her when they were both at the same club and he wouldnt come find her. also her ex told her that J wasnt that great of a guy and that hes done alot of his friends wrong.it seems like he has so many things against him already. but she just keeps on talking to him. She is oh so convinced that hes a nice guy and she has even considered leaving her man for him. and i just need to know if im just crazy and dont want to see her get hurt or is this guy a player?
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Every "PLAYER" I've known played until they met their match. People change not just sometimes, but all the time. As far as him not meeting her a the club, that's her fault, for continuing to talk to him after that. And like dirtball said "Friends are there to be support". And I know as long as my vagina hasn't changed and last I looked it's still the same so.. it's cool to send those "PICS" that I sent to somebody else last month again because my vagina hasn't changed any! LOL! I didn't see the big problem there. IJS!!! I mean it's not easy getting good shots, all the time!!! And they always ask at the weirdest hours! LOL!When your not freshly shaven,after 5 shadow is there! IJS! Nothing wrong with having old "PICS" on standby. Your just finding little things that just don't matter! I mean who looking at the back-round on nude pics? I mean really? WHO? LOL!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Leaving her man? I thought you were saying he's her ex and they have a problematic relationship.
As a friend you can tell her what you think, but it's her life to live and she has to live it, hurt and all. Give her a warning, but support her decision and be there to pick up the pieces after the inevitable. Friends aren't there to tell us how to live our lives, they are our support. Be her support.
One of the surest ways to lose a friend is to tell them they're wrong about a relationship they want. Love blinds people even when it's misplaced. Sometimes the best thing you can do as a friend is be there to pick them up after they fall.
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reader, x waz x  +, writes (16 December 2010):
This guy doesn't seem right. He sends naked pics with different shavings? And in the first week? Sounds a bit like a player, especially as he didn't come and find her when they were at the same club. If she ever says she's meeting up with him, try and see if you can go with her and just see his face, then ask her to take a pic on her phone of him and see if the skin tone is the same as the pics he sent her.
Hope this helps!
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