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I don't want to hurt him but I'm so terribly afraid. If I marry him my family will disown me!

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Question - (15 February 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female South Africa age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hi ok ive been in a relationship 4 quite a while now and we get along really well. he is divorced with 2 kids and i am divorced with one. now i have been seperated longer then him and i am almost 8 yrs younger but that doesnt bother me.

he is now started talking about being more commited at first it was just moving in together and lately he has started hinting about marriage and babys... the baby part doesnt worry me it is part of the culture...

but im afraid firstly my parents dont aprove because he is a diferent religion and a different colour which honestly i couldnt care less. they r very racist. and im afraid of him one day when we r married and i have his kids that he is suddenly gonna go tired of me and want to leave. cause he told me that he used to love his wife very much but then there was so many proplems and he was feeling very squashed thats why he got out. im afraid thats whats gonna happen to me and i dont want that to happen again. also if i go with him my parents r gonna disown me they r not gonna want to have anything to do with me. i dont mind that i love him very much and i know he cares about me alot but im very much afraid that its gonna die out then im gonna be back were i was ground zero.

what should i do? i dont wanna hurt him but im so terribly afraid.

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