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writes:Okayy well i was just wondering if anyone can give me some advice on my relationship.Okay. well we have only been officially together for 3-4 weeks, but we have been unofficially together for around 5 months, i need to know if I've just got cold feet or weather i should walk away from this relationship or stick to what i worked so hard to get.when i met him he seemed great, we we're inseparable, i loved spending time with him and he always called me to do something with him, at this stage i was a very big drinker and was caught in the bigger drug scene and was constantly around my best friend at the time who was a year younger then me (me being 19 and my partner 26), naturally i fell for this bloke, but in October i had decided i did not want to drink on my partners birthday (i am a bad drunk) but everyone pressured me into drinking and going out to the clubs which my partner had turned to me and said "i want to look single for my birthday" and sober i was okayy with that as we we're not actually together but as the night went on i got rather drunk and jealous at the fact my so called best friend was hanging off him all night it ended in a fight and my partners friend got me kicked out of the club without any way of getting home and without a phone you can only imagine what happened....the next morining i woke up battered and bruised, and no one speaking to me at all one of my male friends that stayed at my partners house came over to my house and said my "best friend" was half naked in his bed with him i was furious my purse ended up getting stolen from his house my clothes everything, so i decided to get away from him and move to qld, on my going away party my partner came, and ended up staying with me for the night whilst still seeing my so called best mate, but i still left, me and him still spoke and he kept telling me how much he missed me and wanted me to come back, i didnt take much notice as his words were just words after all the lies and heart ache he had put me through over the past month or so, but then i found out he told my so called best mate he didnt want to be with her a week later i was back home, the first night i got back i went to see him, and he confessed how he would love to be with me and how much he cares for me, i believed it and started staying with him again (still not in a relationship), days went by everything still the same, and then we began to fight over my former best friend controlling his life it was like she was his gf and i was the mistress, i stayed at my house while finding out the next morning she was in his bed once again, we didnt really speak, everytime he rang me it was to ask me to do something or to borrow something, i ended up getting frustrated with this so quickly, we ended up in a argument and i told him i had had enough of all this rubbish i kept giving my all to him and get shut down over and over again, once again everything was just forgotten, We fought non stop about everything but mainly the former best friend, now that we are together i have caught him lie to me constantly, he has been flirting with other girls, he will lie to me about where he is and what he is doing and who he is with, i have caught him out many of times.he is constantly telling me that im doing wrong, no matter what i do nothing s good enough i spend no time with him, when gets home from work he gets straight on the xbox or goes to see others, we never talk anymore and he is constantly grumpy, i need some out side advise, he has basically moved in just not officially yet and i don't want to be stuck in a position that i am not free to leave.
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