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*illiebean
writes:Hi, So I have a problem with my son's father(20).A few days after he left me he was dating my little sister(14). They were dating for about 5 months, during this time he was smoking dope and had nothing to do with our son.He change into a completely different person. Unfortunately I was still in love with him. I had suspicions that my best friend/cousin was sneaking around with him. Me and her use to be together all day but she started being "busy" all the time. I had already caught her text him. So long story short I found out they were sleeping together. My sister left him, and he got with my best friend/cousin. It destroyed me. Someone close to me died recently and I decided to forgive and forget. And now my baby's father wants to be in my sons life all of the sudden. He doesnt seem like he's on drugs anymore but I dont know for sure... I really dont want to let him be around him because I dont want him to think the way his dad is with my cousin is fine, I dont want him to grow up and ever treat a woman like that. But at the same time I dont want to keep im from his father since he finally wants to be in his life.... What should I do??
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 July 2010):
I I'm being honest, in a dream world this guy wouldn't have come back at all. He went off with your sister, which is one stab in the back, then off with a cousin, which is another stab in the back, and had little to do with your son whilst taking drugs. Not good.
But, if I'm being realistic here, there's little you can do to stop him from seeing your son. I think there is only one way this man can prove himself, and I think that's if he takes a drug test (something the court may be able to enforce). Only a drug test will tell the truth. And I hope you're getting maintenance as well for the child. Again, if not it may be that the court will side with you. But I think only a drugs test will tell the tale.
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