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female
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41-50,
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writes:hello I have a dilemma, my boyfriend is a very good guy, but very introverted and very close person. We have been together for almost 9 months. When we are together everything is perfect, he does everything to please me, he normally prefer to go to the places I want just to see me happy,our sexual life is great we have a lot of passion for each other. The first 6 months of our relationship we were appart 2 hours away so we would be able to see eachother once a week, but he would call me, text or email me during the week. 3 months ago I move closer 30 minutes away (I made this move for other reasons, not because of him), I knew that he is a very bussy guy, but just when I moved He started in college(this was something that I knew from before, and I verify it), he decide to go back after many years, which I think is great, but now he is always extremelly bussy, he work 2 jobs and is going full time to college, he make time to see me 3 times a week, which is ussually wendesday, friday and sunday. At the begining I used to be the one doing all the planing, because he is bad planning ( all his friends complain about it) then I talked to him and he slowly has changed that, so now he is the one who normally called to go out or come to see me, but sometimes the days we don't see each other he doesn't make any contact with me. It is not that he doesn't return my calls of my messages, he always does, but he doesn't make the first contact.The times I have tell him about that, he always say he is going to call me or texted me more, then he do it for a couple of weeks and then things goes to the same way again. This guy is a very good guy, and I know he is bussy, I am bussy also, I work really hard also. I know that if for some reason there is a week that we cannot meet 3 times, that week we talk a little bit more on the phone. This is not a guy that is a player, I am his first relationship, and is always talking about the future with me, he always say that he has never meet someone like myself, that I am perfect for him and that he has a lot of feelings for me. I know also that my boyfriend is the nerd type of guy, NO ONE can compit with the computer, that is not something that bothers me, because I am the same way, but, my question is, how it is possible that if a guy miss you and have a lot of feelings for you he doesn't give you the 5 minutes call everyday to see how are you doing?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 November 2008):
Do you HAVE to speak to him every day?
If you are the kind of girl that has to have daily contact then I think you need to set a time that he has to call you on, or that you will call him.
Get a routine in place, work it out and stick to it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hany  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 hi,
i understand that he is really love's you and you have to understand too he is not a player
as you said you are the first girlfriend for him so he is missing some etiquette's
but also he must saw some movies and learned some tricks from it or something like that
so it is not useful to tell you if he called you 1 time you call him one time ...
but try to give his heart some spicy like going to see some romance movies or sharing some gifts ( choose the gifts that will remain with him all the day )
these things i think will help
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