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writes:I'm 16, and i've had a 'crush' on this guy that's 36/37 for a very long time, he used to be my neighbor however about 2 month ago he split from his wife for reasons that i still don't know of and he moved out and now has his own place. Anyway, we talked a lot when he lived across from me, usually via facebook or when i saw him working but recently, since he's been living on his own, he's online a lot more which obviously means we get talking a lot more. Honestly at first, i thought of our conversations being normal and friendly but after numerous people kept telling me that a middle aged man shouldn't be talking to a 16 year old, i kind of realised how strange this is. We got talking about films and food etc the other day, and he kept saying how i should come down to his and we should watch a film together?! ...i like this guy.. A LOT, and i know for a fact that he wouldn't hurt me as i've known him for a long time and he's such a great, friendly person who i'm guessing is going through a hard time in his life right now, he also has a 3 year old daughter, who is...everything to him! anyways, i don't know what to do, like i said, i'm pretty confident that he wouldnt try anything with me but something's telling me that this isnt right?! what do you guys think? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): I disagree with the first poster. Age is nothing but a number? Hon, this guy is going through a hard time and he may just be looking for a REBOUND or whatever you call. I would not even recommanded meeting him in private or in public because the age gap is so huge. You are in a vulnerable position and so is he. I don't know what the law over there in Europe is, but you have got to think with your head, not your heart.
Serioustly, if you were my daughter, I would go crazy about this and will refuse to allow this 36 year old man to even come near you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 I think this is not a good idea.
why did he move out
if you want to meet him for say coffee or a soda at a PUBLIC place to just talk I can see that being ok
BUT NOT alone and NOT at his place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): 0k darling i don't think you should consider dating him without being asured of why he left his wife in marriage. Be careful, he might not be the WHO you think he is.
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reader, nothing but the truth +, writes (3 April 2011):
As a teenager you might not like this, but honey, if you think that a man is asking you round to his to watch a film, who had just broken up from a marriage and isn't after something you would have to be delusional.Think about it if it were a friend who told you she had been speaking to someone online who they kinda knew and they asked them round to theirs. This man is clearly going through a lot just now, and yes he might be lonely, but just speaking to him over the internet in conversaton (as long as you're not divulging any personal information that could cause harm)is a whole lot safer than being in a house with him himself. Who knows what could be going through his mind right now and I reckon that for your safety alone you should stay well away from visiting him. Peoples minds can't always be predicted by themselves at times let alone by others. I think that as a 16 year old girl you should be out having fun with your friends, not worrying about a neighbour who's twice as old and is clearly going through some stuff right now. You should be focused more on yourself than him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Hey =)It's nothing really wrong with it as ur legal. So if you like him. You like him. But if you are not ready for anything... Make it clear!! I was 16 and dated a 31 year old. My sister was 18 and with a 40yr old. Age is just a number. As long as it's legal then there is no problem with it.I hope this helps =)
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