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writes:help!okay so I just started dating this guy i met on facebook and he told me that he really love me, but i just realized i dont love him back. what should i do? I want to break up with him but I dont know how to cause I dont want to hurt him. He's a nice funny and a football player but I still have feelings for me ex.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 When I first read this I was going to say something like "you just need to tell him how you feel,there is no painless way to dump someone"
Then I read the first to answers you received and I feel that its a good thing I`m not the only one who has read this because there advice is 10 times better than mine would have been.(In my defense its 4am here and I`m gonna crash after this).
So now I`m going to try to explain what I have learned about love.We as humans have it with in our selves the ability to love whom ever we choose to open our hearts to.I am not gay but I love my close male friends.The noble idea that there is only one person out there for us is a myth.That can`t be possible for the simple reason that women outnumber men on this Earth.So said it is better to find someone that makes us happy,that treats us right,and that we can trust unconditionally then to find someone we "Love".If you have those factors in a relationship I promises that love WILL follow.
So forget the notion of whether you love your bf or your ex.Thats really not as important as who makes you happy.Your ex is your ex for a reason.Don`t make that same mistake twice.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 well you say you've just realised you don't love him back due to feelings for your ex maybe this is a sign to show that you've not yet moved on from your ex maybe you need to tell him that.
but don't let this relationship go just because you "feel" you don't love him give this relationship a chance to blossom into something you may end up kicking yourself for not persuing it further as this could be a soulmate for you but you'll never know if you give that chance up.
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i hope this helps hun
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, guillaume +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Hi,
I think maybe it is very early to worry too much about if you love him. That can happen later when you least expect it. Probably, as you say, you still have feelings for your EX. This seems to be blocking any "new" love from developing.
If your new guy is fun to hang around with, then I'd carry on with him for a while. Love can take time in a lot of relationships.
Try to move on from your EX if you can, (we don't know why you broke up.)
One way of moving on is a new partner, but let him know you wish to go slowly slowly. His confession of love may have been too fast for you at this time and has sent you into a fear or panic! Take care, G. xx
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 July 2009):
 so ride it out enjoy the sex hell get the hint eventually
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