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writes:I know this is a strange fear but I don't like giving and recieving gifts from my boyfriend. I don't mind giving and recieving gifts from my friends either the same sex or opposite sex but it's happened with all my past relationships.I am with a guy who I really love at the minute and it's coming up to Christmas and I don't know what to do because I don't want to give or be given a gift. I want to get over this fear.Any ideas ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Explain it to him so that he doesn't think it's just him, and he will understand better.
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reader, MissUnique +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Believe me, it's really not stupid. I had the same fear too, and as the same as you, only with boyfriends, and it didn't matter if that bf had been a friend previously that I've given a gift to, when I was dating them, I suddenly felt weird about the whole thing. I got over it though! I just tried to pretend that I wasn't dating them. It was extremely hard at first but now I can buy presents for guys without having to do it.
Don't be like my brother and dump the other person at birthdays christmas etc. just because you don't know what to get them :)
If what I suggested doesn't help, talk this through with your bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Maybe you're worried what you'll get them is 'wrong' or that you won't like what they've got you and feel guilty for not liking it.
For the first one... are you any good at song-writing or poetry? Art? Textiles? Pottery? Composing? Instead of just buying, create him something yourself. He is far more likely to appreciate all the effort you have put into it.
As for what he gets you... give him a little hint of what you want, then he's less likely to go wrong! If it turns out you don't like it and you feel really guilty, he doesn't have to know you don't like it! Wear it/play it/use it anyway =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI havent told nobody about this fear i know its stupid but i just dont like it but thanx xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 November 2008):
Tell him not to give you anything as you don't want the stress.
I don't understand why you are scared of this though, it is not just that you feel awkward about it?
If it is then just suck it up and get on with it.
Face your fear and get on with life. Don't let a little thing like this hold you back.
Good Luck!! xx
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