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writes:Dear Agony Aunts/Uncles,I'm really confused about this guy I have been dating. We met a few months ago on a night out, my friend and his friend ended up getting it on that night and we went back to his friends too, but nothing happened between us bar kissing and talking until the early hours. We kept in touch via text messaging and snapchat for a while afterwards, then started to meet up frequently for drinks and meals in person. After a few dates, he took me to his place (his parents house), we had take out and watched movies, he let me meet his parents and sister who proceeded to tell me that he had kept me quiet from them which I didn't think a lot of at the time. We continued to date and I have gotten to like him over the last few months and I think he feels the same way, he's always saying I'm great to hang out with and he has had an amazing time. Then the other night, he took me to his place and his neighbour/best friend was getting out of the car at the same time, he couldn't have ran faster to avoid him, then his friend texts him later saying "who was the girl you were with? she looked pretty hot", to which my date didn't reply to. I thought it was pretty weird after a few months of dating me, he hadn't told his best friend anything about me or that I even exist. Then the next date we go on which was tonight, I felt more inclined to look at his phone when he was on it (wrong I know, but now I'm curious about him) I could see he has tinder, which I didn't know about him and when he went on snapchat to talk to a friend all of his recent "best friends" on there were girls usernames. Now I'm just lost, I don't know what this guy is thinking or what game he might be playing, can anyone shed any light? Thanks.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 September 2015):
 No parricular games- it sounds like you two are just giving different readings to your story.
He reads it as he is dating you casually, you read it as if it is something more.
Unluckily, " Hanging out with you is great and I had an amazing time " is not the same As " I am your bf " " I am in love with you " " I am faithful to you ". And " I like you " is not the same as " I like ONLY you ". I am sure he means what he tells you, but what he tells you is, more or less, that you are a great play- mate and partner-in-crime , which is a nice compliment but does not spell committment.
I think you have given for granted more appreciation and most of all more committment of what he is willing to give you atm.
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