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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my ex boyfriend broke up.. 4 years ago now when he went to College, as it was 3 hours away from where we lived, and he didn't want to do a Long distance relationship. The saddest thing, is that I'm not sure if I'm over him or not. I still find him attractive, wonder what it would be like to be with him nowadays etc, I like it when he texts me back, or if we talk on msn (although its only a few times a year). It's like sometimes I just wish he'd come on msn so we could talk about stuff. Obviously, if by some miracle he asked me out (which isnt likely) I think I'd still say yes. When we do talk, we still flirt... and coninsidently I live about half an hour from him now, but as I said, we don't talk much, and he's not the best for replying to texts or coming online.Since him, I did have a thing going on with a guy for about a year, although we never 'went out', just acted like we were. Silly really, just after I saw him once, I never heard from him again, and saw a month later on his profile he'd just started going out with another girl. I really did like him, so that really hurt. I know if he'd asked me out, I'd have said yes. He was perfect.. first guy I fell for after my ex. Recently, I've been getting closer to a guy on my course, we say a few flirty things to eachother, and talk and text quite alot. I always look forward to talking to him and keep wanting to text him. I think he's fallen for me. He's such a nice, caring guy, he was with his ex for over a year, gentleman etc. So he seems like a great guy. I dunno, I can just see him asking me out soon, or something happening between us, and I wouldnt know what to say. It's like, I do like him more than a friend, but I dunno if I'd want to go out with him, but I don't know why. I see him more than a good friend, so why I feel like I can't go out with him is beyond me. I don't know whats stopping me from going out with this guy on my course.. surely it's not my ex, as I'd have said yes to the second guy if he'd have asked me... Although I know if my ex ever wanted to meet up (which, again.. isnt likely) I don't know if I'd stop anything from happening between us, and I know that sounds awful, as he'd probably be using me for sex.I just really don't know what to do.. obviously I think I have been leading the guy on my course on abit, but I do like him, but now guy #2 is out the picture, I keep wondering who I'd rather go out with out of the two, and I think it would be my ex. Saying that, when I was with the second guy, my ex didn't mean much at all to me. Is it that I'm scared to commit? Still love my ex? I really don't knoww. Just any advice would be useful. I know it probably doesn't make much sense, I can't even make much sense of it myself.
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reader, julie52  +, writes (27 December 2009):
oh your a confused person i think the only advice i can give is stop looking for mr right love will find you when its meant to , take time out just for you put all recent and past experiences behind you , enjoy life for a while ,and honestly when the time is right it will happen
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