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writes:Hi. My bf and I love each other. But I'm starting to doubt his love for me. The other day we were watching a movie and the guy saved his life by cutting off his hand and he still got married and had kids. I asked him if someday I lose a part of my body will he still love me? I only was teasing him cause I thought his love for me was as strong as mine for him. but I was really disapointed when he didn't want to aswer first but when I insisted he said he doesn't know he can't promise me anything!What does that mean?He asked me the same question and of course I said I'll always love him no matter what happens to him. We can't decide to love someone or when to stop loving them right?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 April 2012):
 You are right. Your boyfriend doesn't love you as much as you love him, or he isn't as dedicated and connected to you as you are to him. He could love you more as time goes by though, you never know. If it hurts too much that he doesn't feel the exact same amount of love for you that you do for him then maybe you shouldn't be together.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 April 2012):
 I guess you just put him on the spot and he did not know how to answer it, he is probably not looking to much in to the future at the moment so he struggled to answer. He is right in a sense nobody knows what the future holds, and I understand that you want to be reassured that no matter what happens he will always be there for you, but in reality men do not think the same way as women do and he probably just felt on the spot and answered as best as he could. Don't read to much in to this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 April 2012):
 Well at your age I think he's being realistic.
If god forbid tomorrow you were in an accident and were severely injured and ended up in a wheelchair for life what would you want him to do? Me? I'd offer my man his freedom.. in fact, i did that a few months back when I found out that i have degenerative disc disease of the back and will probably be severely crippled later in life.. I don't want my partner to be saddled with the burden of a disabled partner. I love him enough to let him go. He declined saying he was with me for the long haul. I guess we all want to hear that... and it's very disappointing to think that your bf does not love you enough to stay through the misery of watching someone you love suffer and the burden you put on them as a disabled person.
He sounds to me like your BF cares about you now but he's not thinking that far in advance and won't make any promises to you that he's not 100% sure he will keep. I think that's a very admirable trait.
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