A
female
age
30-35,
*aybeegurl_x
writes:I would never dream of cheating on my boyfriend! We've been together for a long time! At the start of the relationship things were PERFECT and I'm really not kidding, he was the most amazing boyfriend I could ever dream of but just within 7 months, he started to change, started to prove me wrong that men are all the same! He started to ignore me, never told me how much he loved me, never even said I love you in fact! Never came to see me for days on end! He threatened it was over a couple of times!For the past month or so I've been talking to my ex boyfriend a lot more, we hadn't spoken for over a year so it was nice to just see how he was! Now to me just talking to him isn't anything bad at all, but my boyfriend flips most the time he knows I'm talking to guys? When I have a lot of male friends, I don't complain knowing he goes out with girls so I don't get him!But anyway.. I'm so confused as to how I feel, because talking to my ex has made some feelings come back, and he feels the same way and I'd like to be treated with the respect and care I need which I know he would do! I love my boyfriend so much and I hate the way things have turned out with him cause he was the perfect guy at the start, I don't get how he's gone totally different it's like he's had a personality change! Can anybody help please?
View related questions:
I love you, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, me ,myself and i  +, writes (18 November 2008):
hey!
i think you should call your boyfriend and meet at a coffee shop and ask him whats wrong? what did you do to be treated the way hes treating you? dont get to angry mayve something is bothering him or maybe he noticed something about you anyway you know what girl the two of you should sit down and talk and express your feelings for eachother tell eachother how you feel about eachother what you dont like about eachother. I know its hard to do that but try.
i hope it work, I wish you all the best for your relationship.
love Hope oh ya and im only 12
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008):
I don't know if your boyfriend is showing "normal" levels of insecurity or he has real issues with you talking to other guys, but if it is the former then I suggest you sit your boyfriend down and tell him that you used to see him as the most perfect boyfriend ever, and that you were truly happy but how things have changed.
Most men want more than anything to feel like they can make their woman happy, and if they realise that they are not succeeding at this, they will try and do something about it.
Either your boyfriend genuinely does not share the same feelings to you, as you do to him, and that is why he is so distant, or otherwise he has just lapsed, due to inexperience of understanding women and needs explaining that you are not happy and something will be done about it unless he changes.
I think if you talk with him, and explain that his lack of attention and his changing ways have started to make you question if he is perfect for you after all, and you are questioning if the relationship is right is enough to kick start him in to doing something about it. If you tell him all this, and things get worse, then I think you can be sure that this guy is not the one for you.
Hold back from seeing your ex until you have dealt with this issue with your boyfriend. Whilst you are unhappy with your boyfriend, your feelings for your ex will likely continue and you may end up doing something with him that you regret.
You say you love your boyfriend, so give him a chance by talking to him about how you are feeling to make a change. You could also ask if there is anything wrong with the relationship for him; maybe he has things that he needs to say that you could both do with changing. If nothing improves after you've had this heart to heart, at least you know you tried and will feel better about doing something more about it. Good luck.
...............................
|
