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*anniepeg
writes:Why do I feel this? Let's say everyday I come home from work. I have to cook, clean, and keep my child quiet and inactive. At night I relieve my man (not saying that I don't enjoy sex, I actually very much do.) My man just pretends to help out with chores then numb out in front of the TV, briefly asks how the kid is doing, then enjoys me in the bedroom. What about emotional support? I talked to guys on dating sites, they act like they don't have an idea of what I am talking about, they just assume the penis is the answer to every problem. If there's anything wrong then the relationship is not working. They feel like if nothing is broken, what is there to fix? I should want to be able to process my feelings, that's all.Should I just date guys in the counselling career, zen masters, or find a bisexual girlfriend on the side. I can't separate sex and emotional connection. I want the whole package in a man, not just his penis. I am not satisfied with girlfriends telling me "he's such an insensitive jerk," or "aw honey I feel for you." Thank you guys. What does emotional support mean to you? I have a desire to spill my emotions out but fear that might overwhelm the guy. Who wants to suffer the constant blah blah blahs at the end of the day? Should I just suck it up to the fact that my man makes more than me but then that makes the relationship a one up one down position. I don't like to feel like an unequal. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (3 January 2011):
janniepeg is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you. For the amount of typos you could tell the followup wasn't by me. It's hard for me to just trust when he says he's tired because of all the inconsistent things he said in the relationship. I am okay with that, however I am not okay with him just shutting off when I expessed my frustration. I have my own issues to deal with so it's not just he does this he does that. The underlying issue is trust. He told me not to bring up the past again. Not knowing how to deal with my emotions I bottled them up and then I resented it. I have to find a better way to express myself without shaming and blaming.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (2 January 2011):
janniepeg is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell to begin with. This woman does not live with the man she is speaking about. The chores she speaks of are her own. They see each other 3 times a week. Once or twice a week the man will have them over to spend the evening , Cooking dinner, Spend time doing home work with the boy etc.Mom feels fustrated about allways spending time with the child. The man iffers to spent alone time with the child so mom can do her own thing. The man doesnt view tv when the fmily is preasent as the child is watching tv. Mom doesnt have any family or friends, so alone time reqiures a sitter once aweek. On a sat or sunday for 4 or 5 hours.
The woman hasnt addressed feeling of neglect ever to her man.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 stop giving him sex until he acts right. hello? men don't respond to words. they respect to lack of attention
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I must say it happens in many many relatinships the men just assume the woman will do anything with out a question and he just plays games and watches tv. You could try telling him about how you don't feel emotionally respected, but that may lead to a fight if he's tired or absorbed in tv. But I assure you that there is nothing wrong with the relationship and that if you both do the right thing it will be ok in the future :)
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reader, Tizzie0612 +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Have you tried sitting down with him and told him how you feel. i mean you have a point about not getting any moral support.sex is one thing but not having the moral support around it kinda takes away from it.Anyway my simple suggestion is to communicate with him about your emotions and waht you feel like he is not doing then if nothing changes then maybe you should start looking elsewhere if you feel that is the bes thing to do.
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