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I don't feel like a lesbian but the first time I saw a naked woman I got aroused! But I'm only strongly attracted to men! What gives?

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Question - (8 June 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2015)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm a 17 year old female and as far as I've been concerned, I'm straight. I've only done things with boys and have feelings for boys, I could never see myself with a girl romantically or really sexually. But, lesbian porn and boobs do turn me on and I know that's pretty normal...however, when I was younger I still only ever really liked boys but when I saw a naked woman for the first time, I got aroused???? It's weird... But I really don't even feel like a lesbian or bisexual in hiding cause I feel like I'd know but I don't know that because of my strong attraction to men. What do you think all that means???

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015):

Forgive me as I am not really answering your question but I think this would be helpful!

You used "lesbian", "naked", "aroused" and "attracted" in your question. These words target one subject and this is sexual intercourse. Or to be exact, the "prospect" of sexual intercourse. You have considered who you could and would have sex with. You obviously thought you are a girl who would only like to have sex with a guy but you are starting to wonder if that really is the case.

I think you have only seen your arousal as desire to have sex who whoever arouses you. If you are aroused by somebody it doesn't mean you want to have sex with them. There are things linked to sexuality even before intercourse.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 June 2015):

Honeypie agony auntBeing aroused by an image and being SEXUALLY interested are actually two different things. Finding a woman's body arousing, attractive, beautiful doesn't MEAN you now have to go re-label yourself or label yourself to lesbian/bi-sexual.

I find the naked woman MUCH more aesthetically pleasing than the naked male. In art you see gorgeous statues of women in ALL shapes and sizes, it's pleasing to the eyes - THAT is why ART works, it makes us tick.

Labels such as straight, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, bi-curious, pan sexual or whatever label is out there is not something that ANY of us really NEED to worry about. YOU are you. And that is that.

I think the reason lesbian porn is appealing to you, is because it's ALL about FEMALE pleasure (well, duh! there are only females in the porn... ) but you get the picture - "straight male porn" is ALL about the man, the woman is merely a prop.

I will though ask you to consider not using porn for now. Not because I'm anti-porn (though I am) but because it gives you a skewered view of REAL sex as porn is 99% fake.

And I don't say it to "wag a finger" but to make you think, and USE your imagination instead.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/ is a VERY good website explaining how detrimental PORN can BE to you a young mind.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2015):

In my opinion it means nothing at all except that youre a very sensitive soul...perhaps the images were really good and as you are a female yourself its just as well that you didnt think it revolting or that would leave you with problems..i hope you are contented with your own body image.If you find the opposite sex attractive thats fine...but it doesnt mean you have to be repulsed by your own sex ....so if a naked woman is attractive to you so what..Artists have been raving over the female nude for centuries...x

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A female reader, He_Na Mauritius +, writes (8 June 2015):

Its completely Natural!! Many girl out there feel same :) Nothing serious ;)

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