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*ebeccaa
writes:I am quite confused. I will start from the begining. I was happily in love with my boyfriend (now my ex boyfriend, who a few weeks ago just under a month ago to be precised. I knew something was wrong because he was not texting me as much he didnt want to see me and he wasn't being as sweet as usual. Eventually i asked him what was wrong, and he said things wern't working and i begged him not to break up with me and he said we could give it another shot. Then the following night i text him and he said he was sorry but he wanted to be alone for a while and didnt want a relationship. Both these i had a panic attack, the first night was worse, however i do suffer with panic attacks. I was very much hurt over it and i still am. Just under two weeks after he broke up with me he had a new girlfriend.A few days after this happend somone moved to our school, but i had known them from being little i knew their family and he knew mine. His mum asked if i could keep an eye on him i told her i would. Then he told me he liked me more than a friend, i said i couldnt have a relationship because of how heart broken i was from my last one. I said it was not fair on him if i was still pining over my ex. He said he wasn't botherd if i was still in love with my ex. So i said okay we can just see eachother but i dont want to get serious, but he started getting abusive to me on facebook just because i wouldnt put in a relationship with him as my status, but i didnt want to. He has done that a few times just because of silly things like that. I also noticed how my friend who has a boyfriend of her own (his friend) always flirts with him. So i checked her messages from him and i found dirty messages sent from eachother. They said it was just a joke but i dont think it was. Then again he said he loves me and he only wants to be with me. So taking everything into consideration, do i go out with him?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 October 2011):
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): Okay, I think you just need to break up with this new guy. First you are not healed at all from you past relationship. Second, he's an abusive jerk. Delete him on Facebook and don't be friends with him, either, if possible. Get away from this guy before he hurts you even worse than you already are.
Next, take time and heal up. Don't date anyone serious or not for a while. And I mean at least six months. Just hang out with your friends and get all the hurt out. Take care of yourself. Six months may seem long now, but really it will be good for you to grow and will pass in no time at all.
Then decide how you are doing but don't look for love actively. Just live and enjoy life for now and something better will come your way.
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