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writes:The past several weeks, I suddenly developed a crush on my flatmate. There were possible signs before that he may like me but nothing was taken further.He moved out a few hours ago and is off for summer for a couple months. Our flatmates in general get along and it looks like we will be in touch next year. I wanted to tell him that I liked him and due to him leaving, there was a part of me that should hurry up and tell him. The day before he left, there was some subtle flirting. But I later decided that I did not want to tell him because I felt pressured by time and that if I told him, there would be a 2-3 month time gap. Whilst, I think our flat will stay in touch, I think between me and him we do better when we are actually together in person as we rarely talk online/phone. And I worry that we won't meet up as much, then again I reassure myself that I don't know what the future has in store.But my main question is, was it a good idea to have not told him that I liked him due to the timing?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 It is possibly better to see if absence makes the heart grow fonder. I think not telling him might be OK.
Yes he or you could meet someone else in the coming two months. But if you had told him before he left there would be little he could do, at that late stage, to change his plans. It could have resulted in some awkwardness.
But if it is meant to be you are likely to
feel more excited as the time draws near for his return. And he might be feeling the same. The reason I say this, is because of the flirting you mentioned.
When he does return don't miss an opportunity, when he and you are alone even for a brief moment, to look into his eyes and tell him that you missed him, if that is how you still feel, in two months time.
Best wishes.
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