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writes:My boyfriend was fingering me and it really hurt, but I never bled. Did I break my hymen? How can I check?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2016): this occurs to me also I was really surprise though but now my guy thought that I lied to him of me being a virgin am so confuse that I don't even know wot to tell him to make him believe me once again. need some advice please?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 It can be impossible to tell. Loads of girls break their hymen through activities like sport and dancing, or inserting a tampon. Some girls never even have a hymen in the first place - I never had one. If you are a virgin or if he was a bit rough then fingering can hurt whether you have a hymen or not. Whether you have a hymen or not is not an indicator as to whether or not you are a virgin, if this is what you are wondering. So don't panic, as long as you are not hurt, then it doesn't matter whether you broke your hymen through this or through something else =]
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 July 2012):
 You have never run, climbed up on anything, done any gym work, never played as a child?
Those things will break a hymen… it’s just a very fragile piece of skin… and usually by the time a young lady is a teen it’s long gong… running, jumping, cartwheels, tree climbing… bike riding… any of those things can break it…
I never bled when I lost my virginity and I certainly did not bleed when I was fingered internally for the first time..
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 July 2012):
 If you didn't bleed either it wasn't broken from this or it was already broken. When I lost my virginity mine broke and there was a very noticeable amount of blood. Pain does not indicate a hymen breaking, it does not really have nerve endings. There are procedures where the doctor cuts it and unless it's unusually thick (very very rare) they don't give any kind of medication to numb the pain, the just snip it and for the most part it doesn't feel like anything happening. The pain was likely just from your boyfriend being inexperienced and stretching your vagina uncomfortably. Though in case you're worried it's already gone or broken, your hymen being in tact or not does not have anything to do with virginity. If your hymen is broken you're still a virgin.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (16 July 2012):
 Tisha is right. You may have been born without one, it may have worn way with time or have you ever rode a bike? Played any kind of sport or ran? Or used tampons?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 July 2012):
 You may not have been born with one, or you had one that has been eroded over time. There's no way for us to tell. I think it may be safe to assume that your hymen wasn't large enough to cause bleeding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): i never bled when i lost my virginity.
itl be definitely broken once you have sex.
dont worry to much about it kos it doesnt really matter at the end of the day lol
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reader, Pushka +, writes (16 July 2012):
Pushka is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is really important for me and I never did such things that may break my hymen...... If he didnt break it that would be the best thing lol because of my religion and culture
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 July 2012):
What she means is that you may have broken your hymen from non-sexual activities as a kid or some other time. Like riding a bike, riding horses, falling, etc... It's really unlikely he broke your hymen. Is it important to know if you have or haven't broken it?
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reader, Pushka +, writes (16 July 2012):
Pushka is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut I didn't bleed at all, and it was my first time
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 July 2012):
Why are you doing things that really hurt? Tell him to stop if it hurts. I found a good link for you, which describes what may be going on. If your boyfriend doesn't know female anatomy, which is very likely, he's assuming that penetration with fingers in and out is going to feel good. If he's rough and you aren't aroused, this will hurt instead.
If you are in the 18-21 age range, then your hymen may be 'broken' or eroded due to other factors in the past. You may not even have had much of a hymen to begin with.
The best thing to do is to go to your gynecologist and have a proper exam and you can ask that question there.
Here's the link I mentioned: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/cherries_jubilee
Good luck and be safe!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 July 2012):
Only a doctor can check, but it's highly unlikely that he broke it, and pretty much impossible if there was no blood.
If your boyfriend is fingering you and it hurts, stop! Fingering should NOT focus on penetration, it should focus on your clitoris, which is external. A lot of guys learn nowadays that women are all about penetration and that fingering means imitating sex with their fingers, when women simply don't have that many nerve endings in there. I don't know any women who would enjoy having someone just shove their fingers in their vagina while they aren't turned on. Put your hand over his and show him how you like to be touched. If you don't know how already, go learn how on your own and then show him.
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