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writes: So I am a gay male, and I have a situation I need help. I appreciate all advice. Long story short, I have had a crush on this fellow gay man that lives in the same town. He works at our local coffee shop and well, I felt bold last week to go with my friend as he knows her. He invited both of us to the movies. But I feel stuck because now after hanging out with him, I felt I was too shy and am so intimidated by his charm. I wish I could hit reset, maybe get his phone number.Now for the record he does follow me on instagram, but I feel with me showing up at his work and then sensing him a private message it might be too stalkerish. I just want to get to know him some more. From the interaction we had I enjoyed it. However, what's a good way to let him know I would like to get to continue to know him and maybe us hangout alone. And yes feel free to ask me how old I am. I am 26 but I am shy and intimidated. It's not just rejection, but also humiliation I fear. How and when is a good time to approach him after I somewhat got a chance to hang out with him last Sunday?
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reader, Katwri  +, writes (20 February 2017):
Ok I would send like just a random group message on instagram and then if he responds just hit up a conversation and it that goes well see if u can sneak in and ask for his number I do it all the time
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (13 August 2016):
 I say keep it simple:
Go in for coffee-not take away sit in so you up your chance of him and you talking, say hi bit of small talk about how his days going and the other night etc. Ask him if he is close to a having a break and offer to buy him a coffee. If he is not, smile and say perhaps another time and ask if it would be ok to grab his number or leave him yours. Just make sure you dont do it in ear shot of customers. Always prepare yourself for rejection it sucks but hopefully this is not the case for you. Good luck
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