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female
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41-50,
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writes:Hey there I am new here. Quick question. I am dating a fabulous guy that I am head over heels in love with. We have been together for almost a year and were friends(more distant than close) over a decade before that. We live on two different coasts. We have talked about marriage, kids, futures, etc. There are a few problems. Both of us are in the middle of divorces, My abusive husband had an affair, his marriage just didn't work out. Because of my past I have a hard time trusting though I love this man with all my heart and am working towards fixing my issues. He has some as well so I guess you could say we both have baggage.He has a highly stressful very public job and told me about a month ago that we needed to go on radio silence till at least the first of the year. Since then we text but he is so much more distant that he was before answering only the bare minimum. I am usually the one that initiates texts and though he replies 70% of the time the texts are short, curt and blunt, Never rude but usually yes, no, OK, etc….What should I do?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (28 December 2013):
 Does his ex wife know about you?
Does being with you affect his job?
Maybe the divorce is reaching crisis point and he doesn't want to involve you at this stage?
Have you been a bit clingy or dramatic? because thats a bona fide way to get a bloke on the run?
You can either ride it out and accept the 'curtness' until something changes or withdraw totally and give him some space.
In my opinion some blokes get a bit irritated if you give space and they dont want it...but his actions are a little confusing. He has said to cut contact until the first of the year, I guess give him what he asks for and then see what happens...don't let it spoil your new year xx
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