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writes:hi agony aunts. my first love was my bff since kindergarden. she took my virginity. we were gf's for 5 years and dropped me for a firl she met at college. i was crushed to bits and got in a rebound relationship with another girl that fell head over heals for me but she left me because she walked in on me and my first love having sex when my first love was home for winter break. ive been a depressed disaster ever since because it was that momentx that I realized that I had fallen in love with her and was only stuck on my first love because I didnt want to face she dropped me. I havent talked to my first love since that night because im sickly heartbroken for my rebound girl. She wont give me the time of day. everytime I try to talk to her she sobs and reminds me how bad I hurt her. I regret the awful way I lied to her by not telling her about my first love. Its tearing me up that shes going out with other girls. I seen her around with them and it looks like theyre nice and treat her real good plus theyre drop dead gorgeous. Im not a bad person or cheatwr. Im not playing down all the lying I did to her. I was messed up from my ex love crap. Is there any hope tjat she'll let me in again so I can love her the way she deserves and show her the real me whos not messed up any,ore from my first ? I didnt know I was in love with her until I hurt her. she really loved me more then my first. I broke my own heart.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (31 March 2011):
 You were only stuck on your fist love because you didn't want to face that she had dropped you... then someone else... someone fresher drops you and you're attention is off your first gf and youre suddenly in love with your rebound? Don't you think it's possible you're only stuck on your rebound because you don't want to face that she dropped you?
And don't you realize that even referring to her as rebound is disrespectful and degrading?
I am sorry but it seems to me that you want to come out on top.
You are attempting ot justify cheating on her by saying you were just messed up and hung up. But trying to justify cheating at all, is your first mistake. THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION.. if you want to be with someone else, BREAK UP with the person with you're with, and run wild. You can't have two at one time and expect everything to be just peachy.
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