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writes: My LDR boyfriend recently broke up with me and I have not contacted him and have absolutely no intention of, unless he wants to. It's nearly Christmas and New Year next week and there could be a possibility of being tempted to wish him a happy Christmas and/or New year. Is it best to just forget about him and not contact him ever again? It was an amicable break up, but I am finding it hard to get over it as I thought we had a future.In your honest opinions, what is the best thing to do in this situation? I am not sure about the whole friends with exes thing. How do you stop thinking about them and what they are up to etc? I do wish him all the best but I cant help thinking that he is having a great time and meeting other women etc. I am sure that he didn't take the decision to end the relationship lightly, we shared a lot and I thought he felt the same. I wanted to make it work but I cant help in blaming myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. Yes as it is recent I am going to give it more time. I miss him. I have to send a couple of things I bought for him in the post for Christmas as they are no use to me. But I shall do that in the next week or so, maybe put a very short note or something, or maybe nothing, I kind of want to let him know he has hurt me and let me down :-(
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (24 December 2010):
Being friends with exes is possible, but hard. And generally it's easier to start it out by keeping some distance to begin with. Because if you start texting when you're still thinking about them, you might get caught up in waiting for the next text from him and analyzing what he's thinking about or what he means.
Instead, take some time to get over things and stop thinking about him. When you feel that your feelings for him are more manageable and you are moving on, that might be the time to try being friends.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 there's no harm in sending someone a text or email to wish them happy christmas and new year. it doesnt have to mean you are trying to creep back into his life if that isnt what you both want. staying friends with the ex is suitable for some exes but not others, it all depends on both your personalities and what suits you both. text him on christmas day just to wish him a happy one. its a nice thing to do. then its up to him how he responds.
xx
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