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writes:Dear Cupid.I am having a problem with my parents!We are a traditional Italian family, and usually Italians are pretty social and have many friends, but not my family.My mother has become very ANTI Social.She is 54 and my dad is 64. I have three older sisters and I am the youngest son.My parents especially mt mother has become dependant on me, if she needs to go out she will go to the mall nearest to her, and to go anywhere else she will go with me.My parents do not look like a married couple they just look like two people that live together and happen to have had 4kids together.My older sisters have married and I am the last at home. My sisters and I grew up under strict rules and if we wanted to do anything that was not accepted we had to hide it, being the youngest I never knew but between my sisters they did their own things..to get to my point I am 25 and I want to move out but my parents more my mother will suffer from empty nest syndrome severly. I do everything around the house and it feels like their lives revolve around mine.They have no social life, and are becoming miserable people and in the process they are bringing me down to the point where being at home is miserable and I would rather stay anywhere else but at home because when i go out an i get the sad look, I go out with friends often she cries, my dad goes out with the little friends he has left tries to be happy and comes home drunk she gets angry and doesnt talk with my dad for days and sleeps in the spare room.I am close to my parents and now I am not as they just frustrate me and annoy me and they are plain selfish in making their problems mine, and making me sort out their problems, and being the head of the house.. I AM THE SON!!! not the father, and I just dont know what to do anymore, talking with her she makes herself out to be the victim and that this is bad for her blood pressure and that it makes her heart beat to fast and that she gets dizzy and that my going out and having a life stresses her out!!!This actually makes me really angry as you can see and I want out.I want to move out ASAP, but I know that I will get the guilt trip of my life and I do not know what they will do with each other when I am not around!!! I guess they'LL TURN IN HOBITS..Please help, what can I do.. or I will need to run for my sanity!!!
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reader, billrocket +, writes (24 December 2010):
i too stayed late in my life with my folks-mom-died of cancer-i felt guilty leaving my dad-i stayed with him ,until i was 31-mom died when i was-27.but everybody needs to get out of there own-relationships,privcy,marriage,kids,ect.i just moved close to my dad.but make sure you can afford living alone or with a roomate-my dad and i are still,good friends.hope you the best,on your desion.
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