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female
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anonymous
writes:There is a 5 year age gap between my boyfriend and I, I am 16 and he is 21. We've been together for 7 months and his past has never bothered me until recently; ofcourse he was going to be more experienced than me etc but he's slept with 20 maybe more women before me (who he wants to settle down with). I know it was in the past but I can't help but feel disgusted when he touches me because I know that I'm about the 100th girl he's done this to.I've heard some stuff about what he's done to girls, which I don't want to hear - but it now makes me feel like if I don't do this or that, that I'm not as good as them.But he doesn't seem to remember that I am 16 because of how mature I am and he expects me to know certain things, which I honestly don't. I can't help but feel a bit jealous of all the other girls and it's made me feel less attracted to him knowing that he got around before he met me.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 You should take a look out for this guy, and try to keep your pants for a while.
I know some may disagree with me, but there are some guys who have seen their wrong and have truely changed, but barely get their second chance.
But this doesn't mean that you have to be fool. So my advise is for you to wait a while to have sex with him. A couple of months, probably 4. Or if you have, then stop for a while and explain to him your reasons. This way you'll see that he's not here to bed you, but because he truely has changed and stayed with you.
Try to talk to your boyfriend about all your concerns. It might not help much, but it will help you cope with this fact. You have to realize that no matter how much he wants it, he can't change his past. And I bet to you, that if he truly cares about you, that he will not even compare you with the other girls, he'll just enjoy the moment.
But if he turns out to be like his old self, then just dump him. You'll waste your time with him, and probably end up scarred and feeling used when he finishes you off after you had sex with him.
Be a strong woman, don't let anyone fool you. Put your foot down right now, and let him know you are not going to let him get his way with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Find out if he has change or is he still the old fellow he was?
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reader, saltwater +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Alarm bells are ringing here.
It says you're 18-21, but whatever your age, leave him. He just wants to get into your pants. He'll love you and leave you, just like he did with the other girls.
Go and find a lad who respects you. This lad ain't worth your time.
Take care
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reader, RXX +, writes (28 August 2008):
 he has chosen to be with u and that should come as good news for you because, yes .. maybe he has had a few lovers but at the end of the day he has chosen to be wit u. Yes its hard to come to terms with his past ...... but that is all it is - his past and you are his future. it is hard to forget what u have heard but just ask him not to mention anymore because it too hard for u to listen - he wouldnt like it if it was the other way around now would he. All the best! xx
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