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writes: ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (21 July 2006):
 In response to the annon poster asking what sort of porn i was referring to when i said most men dont compare thier woman to them. There are lots of sites out there of pretty young girls exposing themselves and they have fantastic figures, they dont all do grotesque things and alot of them do have pretty girls with cute sweet figures! Its not all about woman doing disgusting things with huge dicks and double penetration and all the wierd and wonderful things they do... there are a lot that simply have a normal looking girl playing normally! or normal sites where you get to see all the action but in a steamy sex session with hotbabes! Not all men straight away go for the far way out porn, some just like to look at nice simple porn and thats what turns them on, the darker side is actually something they get curious about and have a look at that also, well in all the sites my bf has looked at the nicer ones far outwiegh the wierd ones! Ive seen copious amounts of porn sites (yeah had to see what was out there!) and i get the ones that your reffering to, and those sort of ones are pretty out there but not all are like that, either way, whichever site it is alot of issues that girls have with their men lookin at porn is that men are comparing them, whether these girls are cute,sweet looking or doing the bizare things women think they are a threat, i was merely pointing out that generally no matter what sort of porn the guys in to its unlikely that hes comparing his gf to the woman on the screen and yes some of them are babes! Men disasociate it from the real world in the main and it has no baring in thier relationship, its an outlet, im not saying all but most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): if its just porn, dont worry about it, its just a fantasy! I doubt he's comparing the women in porn to his real life gf.
Small point about wendyg's post where she said "Most men are not comparing thier girls to these great babes on the screen". Dont know what porn you're talking about but the ones I've seen are so not hot! They just do crazy stuff that you would not want your girlfriend to be doing like using a 20inch dildo or 300 people gang bang! The crazy stuff is the appeal to most guys I think.
Anyway, he sounds like an ass on this for calling you stupid. He's getting naked pics in his email from one person? Sounds like he's getting a little too personal with someone if you ask me! Give him a good ol' bash in the noggin!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (20 July 2006):
If he is simply taking the occasional glance at a naked woman then theres not much harm no. Its when it takes over that you have to be careful. Of course hes going to say your being stupid cos its something he wants to do, but if it makes you that uncomfortbale you need to tell him. I doubt he is just looking at them hun, hes most probably masturbating which is pretty common, and these woman are just naked people on a screen. Try and relax about it tell him how you feel and that you would like for him to either refrain from doing it or stop openly doing it, if he has respect for you he will. Most men are not comparing thier girls to these great babes on the screen its just an outlet, most men do look at porn whether they admit it or not, but some genuinly have a problem and take it a bit too far. Just tell him how its making you feel and take it from there, if things are otherwise okay in your relationship and you enjoy a heathly sex life together then i wouldnt worry. Or maybe start looking at your own porn of naked men! It shouldnt make you paranoid as these woman on the screen are just that... ON the screen!
Take care x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthese are porn pictures so are you saying i shouldnt worry
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (20 July 2006):
So your saying that he recieves naked pics in emails from one person ? Is he just looking at porn or normal pics of females and thats what your trying to say ? Or is this a real life person that he is interacting with ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen he has sexual emails, papers and any other places. its making me paranoid especially the emails as they come off one person. my bf knows i dont like them but he says im being stupid.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Yea why would he see other woman naked? you need to put more details in your question.
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (20 July 2006):
where and how is he seeing these other women naked
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