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writes:So I'm 28, and 4 months ago I met a man and felt a love that I've never felt for anyone before. I've had longterm relationships in the past and experienced 'love,' I even lived with a guy for several years, but nothing like this. I know its early days but I swear he is my soul mate. It's like nothing I can even explain, but even on the first day, our personalities just clicked so well that I honestly felt I loved him that first day, and months later when he told me he loved me, he said the same thing, that he loved me from the first day. Its a slow dancing, carries me when I have sore feet, cooking breakfast in bed for each other, singing love songs at each others front door outside and dancing in public by the river outdoors in the rain kind of love. I realise I sound like a teenage girl, but I'm just trying to paint the picture of what this love means to us. I've had my fair share of relationships and never felt like this before. He is totally selfless and a total romantic, he even told me when we first met that sex isn't a big deal to him and that with half of his experiences he never enjoyed it. He's honestly very different to most men, I once even wondered if he is A-sexual, but he does get turned on, and he gives the best oral ssx I've ever known. One thing I do know is that BJs are a big thing to him, but he isn't too fussed on sex. The sex was good for the first couple of months then I noticed he kept putting it off, and didn't seem into it. Anyhow, we were having a heart to heart and I asked him if there was anything he needed to get off his chest (we speak very openly together). He really did not want to say but I could tell there was something, so I coaxed it out of him, and he told me that im really bad at giving BJs, like really bad. He said it in the nicest way possible but ultimately that's what he told me. He also said that sex feels like a chore and that I don't seem passionate or into him anymore (I'm crazy about him and didn't even realise he thought this). He also mentioned that I bring up my exes very regularly (I hate myself for this, I'm totally in love with him and no one else, and for me its more of a reflection, but it's a bad habit). I really tried to make the sex good prior to this conversation we had, I actually bought so much lingerie and make a huge effort with my appearance (he always says I'm the best looking girlfriend he's ever had) but I guess I'm just not skilled. I really do love him dearly, he's a good person and I honestly can't see my life without him. He said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that sex isn't a big deal to him, he said that to him sex is only 5% of a relationship, I remember he even told me in the past that he didn't always enjoy sex and thought of it as a chore. He said that he never ever wants to break up and he definitely doesn't think of sex as a big deal (he even said this before we slept together so I know it doesn't mean a lot to him)... but ultimately I know he needs to be satisfied for this to work long term. He admitted for the last month every time we had sex he only did it for me. He had also been the person to phone me for hours on end, always wanting me to be around and looking out for me, I do believe he truly loves me. However I know BJs are a big deal to him. He already told me previously that my teeth keep touching him, and I tried soooo hard to stop that happening, but I have a small mouth and he is so big, and it keeps happening. Nomattwr how much I try my teeth keep touching. I guess my question is, can we save our relationship? I've been looking at BJ tips for hours and really want to improve, but I feel whether I can get good or not is make or break. I love this man with all my heart, I would give anything in the world to make him happy. He treats me like a queen and honestly I want to save this relationship. I cried my heart out to him when he told me about the problem and he sat with me for hours trying to make me smile, to be honest I was mostly crying in case it means an end to our relationship, because I feel I am not fulfilling his basic need.
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reader, Lovely sunshine +, writes (26 April 2021):
Lovely sunshine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo people seem to think this is a troll post, but it's honestly not.
As for the person thinking I also asked a previous question, that is not the case at all as this is the only post I have made (you can even check, this was my only question).
Sorry if it comes across as a bit sexual, but I genuinely thought it was a big deal... surely sex is important in a relationship? This is honestly what I wanted a perspective on .. whether this will have impact on our relationship
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (26 April 2021):
 Nice catch WiseOwlE
I do think we got a troll poster who will change the country and add or change up the story a little for shits and giggles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2021): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-guy-and-i-havent-had-sex-in.html
By some coincidence, this seems like the same OP.
If a relationship hinges on how you suck a penis; I think that is utterly ridiculous!!! It's ludicrous!!! If you are the same OP as above; maybe you hope to get differing answers by offering more embellishments.
The answer I gave for the other post, is the same. He sat with you for hours consoling you, you say?
This guy is such a fake; or this post is entirely made-up to seek sympathy or attention! He ends a relationship for the craziest reason I've ever read here at DC!
Are you just being a rascal, and kidding us?!!
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