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writes:I asked my crush months ago, did he have a gf, wife etc he said no, well I go on facebook and see a pic of him and his g/f (based off the comments, its his g/f)....dated 12/17/2014......now as of now, me and him are still talking and getting to know each other better,,,,should I confront him about the pic and the chic....or just leave it alone....its now may 2015 I was thinkin if I confront him, then he'll know I was on his fb page and he may think im a stalker
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2015): I seen him today, and he just stared at me
so I waved and smiled and he still stood there staring at me
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2015): well I went on the womans page and my crush is tagged as engaged, now he would of had to confirm that in order to be tagged am I correct? or no....when I clicked his name, it takes me back to his page..... they have been engaged since 2013....well, if hes flirting with me, he obviously isn't happy with her.....they have been engaged since 2013.....there aren't anymore pics of her on his page, but she has a pic of him and his son dated march 2015
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2015): well I went on the womans page and my crush is tagged as engaged, now he would of had to confirm that in order to be tagged am I correct? or no....when I clicked his name, it takes me back to his page..... they have been engaged since 2013....well, if hes flirting with me, he obviously isn't happy with her.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2015): I will do that "like I see it" thanks a bunch and thank you MSA, im going to do that ...its hard to trust what he says though....
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reader, like I see it +, writes (26 May 2015):
 Thanks for the follow-up.
If he IS now single, admitting that you're checking up on him may get you the answer you're looking for but cost you any potential for a relationship with him. It's going to give the impression that you'd potentially make a clingy/stalker-type girlfriend if he were to date you.
So, given the additional information you've provided... yep, send him a friend request. You can add a note to him - for example, "Oh hey Graham, you popped up in my "People You May Know" and why yes, I do know you ;)"
If he accepts you have access to see everything on his page including his relationship status and any posts including this other girl. (If he is not single, he is not likely to consider this a good idea.)
If he denies the request, then you can ask him what the heck he has to hide without ever admitting that you have been checking up on him, because there should be no reason he can't be Facebook friends with someone he is romantically interested in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2015): he stated he was single before dec/2014......he may or may not be with her still....I don't know, but I am tempted to let him know I know about so and so and are you still with her, because you told me you didn't have anyone.....just to see what hed say, that's for both of your advice
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reader, like I see it +, writes (26 May 2015):
When exactly did you ask?
If he claimed he was single BEFORE December 17, it seems you've caught him in a lie.
If "months" is two or three months, you haven't found anything conclusive. He could easily have had a girlfriend in December and broken up with her shortly thereafter. Some relationships actually do end very shortly after the holidays, either because of discord that arose DURING the holidays or because whichever party instigated the breakup didn't want to spend Christmas and New Year's newly single, explaining to friends and family why the relationship didn't work and fielding a hurt and angry ex.
Two questions should help you get to the bottom of this:
- Is he typically available to see/call/text? If he's with you on Friday nights or weekends and typically answers the phone when you call him, it's not too likely that he's hiding a long-term relationship because THAT girlfriend would typically be expecting him around at those times. If you only see him every once in a while and every time you call him ends with voicemail, that's not a particularly good sign.
- Have you met any of his friends and family? If not, one way to find out about his relationship status without asking directly is to start asking for/hinting at introductions. If he already has a girlfriend, he's very, very unlikely to be public about a second relationship with you. If you haven't met any of his friends and he has a million and one excuses as to why he can't take you on a group date, then yes, be very suspicious.
Hope this helps. Good luck and best wishes!
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reader, MSA +, writes (26 May 2015):
 Well... it may be that they've already broken up.. The picture was dated 6 months ago.
Why not send him a friend request on Facebook? It's natural to be Facebook friends since you are both on friendly terms. Then once added, you can ask him.
Or you just trust what he tells you. I'm sure you will get to meet his friends soon and if he does have a girlfriend, that secret will leak sooner or later.
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