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writes:Ok, so I've been in a relationship with this girl for about two and a half months. Everything was going great until a few weeks ago she asked for some space to be with her friends more.I said that's fine, so I gave her plenty of space. About a week after that, I ask her if I'm giving her enough room, and she said that it was actually more than she wanted, so I thought I did the right thing.A few days after that she texts me and thanks me for being a good boyfriend and all of the space really helped.Lately, I've noticed she's been acting different around me, somewhat pushing me away I suppose. She never really tells me she loves me or misses me like she did when we first started dating. I asked her what she thinks of us, and she said she lost the spark, but still likes me, just not as much.Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): thanks for the advice. I'll try some of that. The problem is she doesn't call or text as much as she used to either, so I'm just afraid she'll think I've moved on. We are (hopefully) going on a date soon to see if things work out, but thanks a lot for the tips...
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reader, jabey  +, writes (21 February 2008):
yes, we loose the spark when we feel someone is always there and no longer a challenge its all too easy.
If you back off dont ask her how she feels, time to unnerve her abit. at the moment she knows you are always there, and its so easy.
Try to miss a few of her calls. try to break off a date. Invent a full and busy life for yourself, sometimes be there and sometimes dont. This will unnerve her and maybe worry her, about loosing you. At the moment she knows you are at her beck and call.
if something is expensive and special we have to work for it and it makes it excting, you become expensive and special, make her work for you.
Its hard to do this when you adore someone, but it is reverse psychology, we want what we cant have.
if she feels you are loosing interest and not so bothered it will make her feel rejected and that you dont need her, promise you this will make her want you more.
although if it does not work then it means her interest has gone and it may be time to accept this and move on.
But if you are always there waiting, she feels safe and does not have to thinkabout it. Im afraid to say us women like a little challenge, strange creatures I know !!!
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