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writes:I have been dating this girl since October and we are madly in love, but it hasnt been easy. She has lied to me numerous times,I have found out her actual age (a lot older than me) and she has lied about being with her ex, while she was still with me. She swears on her life that she left him immediately after she slept with me, and I still have a hard time believing that. After she told me she was in a polygamous relationship with him, AND she was STILL living with while she was with me, I called it off for a while.Feeling so hurt and decieved, I actually met another girl who I always wanted to be with for the past couple years, and things went well between her and I, I couldnt ask for anything better....But then I got back together with my ex, and tried dumping this new chick. I really do love my ex. And now I'm torn between a woman who I have established one of the strongest connections with, and another woman who is picture perfect for me, yet I cant find a way to feel the same with her....Things between me and the first woman have been getting better, but there is so much struggle involved, and I want to leave her after finals are over. but I'm afraid that I won't handle it well. I have been breaking down not only because I plan to leave the woman I love, but what I'm doing to both of these women.Am I doing the right thing doing this? Every time I try to dump the first one she becomes so emotionally distraght, I know she loves me, and I dont know why I was to sever the ties with her.... Please help.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (8 April 2011):
You shouldn't be with either girl.The first one has treated you shabbily and you were right to end it, but somewhat foolish to get back with her.The other girl seems more right for you, but seein as you can't feel the same way for her, you shouldn't string her along, as while it may not seem it, that's what you're doing.You have to be mentally strong and say no.She can be as distraught as she likes, you have to stand firm and lessen the contact.
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