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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been friends with this girl for around two months and talked every day online or by text or in person.I wanted to be more than friends but she had a boyfriend and never wanted to lose her as a friend, so was happy to be friends. I found out last night that she is cheating on her boyfriend. I am really upset over this, partly because she had said that the guy she is cheating on her boyfriend with is just a friend and nothing else. I had stuck up for her when he said he wanted to sleep with her, and supported her a lot over our short friendship, also as i had hoped we may become more than friends. She is leaving the country soon to live with this guy for three months while studying abroad. We are no longer talking and I do not like parting on bad terms. I am just to upset to talk to her at the moment and do not know if she is worth it. My friends and family say to have nothng more to do with her. I just feel so upset and will miss talking to her every day, we had agreed to keep in touch while she was away. We had argued over her saying I did not understand she needed space - yet I had always said i will leave it to you to get in touch but she always said, no don't be like that. One day I would hear loads from her, other days hardly at all. I am so confused and upset I just do not know what to do. I am off work as I cannot focus. I know I am probably being a fool just can't help it please can anyone help.
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reader, wildman  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Sounds like you have been used as that famous only friends mess. The only thing you can do is find someone else and the sooner the better. She isn't worth your time. It is hard but nothing can change that but time and possibly someone new.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You are this girls friend YEA! Yes you wanted something else but she wanted your friendship hunny..I had a lovely male friend and he got very nasty with me because Id found a b/f and things slowly became to much for me to handle..DO I MISS OUR CHATS? YES!
It really upset me, I didnt promise my friend anything in a romantic way at all, He was to me a really good mate..So hunny if you want to keep this friendship dont wish and hope that something may happen and when it goes the opposite way get angry as you could loose more than you than you realise and that is a true friend...I hope this helps love and you can sort this out WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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