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writes:Posted this last night but i think i had put it across wrong, so didn't get answers on the main bit of the question i was looking for.Please help me be stronger! I dumped someone in jan, stupidly i got manipulated into lending him a few thousand pounds beforehand, which my gran left me when she died, and i am trying to claim it back through small claims, and am still waiting to hear back from them. He admitted to it, so judgement has been made in my favour. But the only way of enforcing it now, is to put a charge on his house, but by the time he sells my money will be worth nothing. But i will do it.But the problem is my ex is trying to destroy me. He keeps playing mind games. Too many things to write in here. I cant stand him and life is great when we dont hear from him, apart from the fact i just want my money back, but every now n then he rears his ugly head again. I blocked his number, then miraculously he has a different number because of some elaborated reason! The strange thing is he seems to contact when i have pmt. I suffer badly from it, and he knows that. I'm certain now he has it written on the calender! He does things like txt that he might have some 'dosh' for me soon, as he puts it. So i try and be civil to him, getting into small talk, then he gets into txt conversations basically to wind me up, and i fall for it!!! Every single time! Within 2 days of me being civil he miraculously has his old number (contract) back again. He's laughing at me. How can someone be so twisted?The main question is can someone please tell me how i manage to write the money off now, without me feeling angry about being turned over, and just block him off my phone again and never have to hear from him again, because i am seriously scared that he is going to tip me over the edge. And i have two children to think about..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankfully he doesn't own a pc so that part is fine. I have blocked his number on my mobile, mine is good like that! And he would't come round here. Thats no fun for him. That would be way too boring and easy, and no use to him at all. Its a control thing ive come to realise. He likes to be able to just casually txt, and start off ok, the start putting content in that he knows will wind me up. Its all a game. That he knew in the past would work.
Hopefully now he will finally get the message. He knows my brother and wants nothin to do with him in the past, when we have been mates, since we havent been, he keeps speaking to my brother. I'm also goin to make sure i tell my mum not to tell me anything aout him from now on that she hears through my brother, because he also thrives on usig my brother too. Once he gets the message that i wont be being told stuff, the spell might be completely broken.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 How you handle the money situation is up to you. Some people take you for everything you have and there is no way of getting it back.. Sometimes its better to let it go and just remember- DO NOT lend money unless you are okay with giving it away, never expecting it to be returned.
On the other hand, you WON your case. Have you contacted a lawyer or a mediator? Possibly a 3rd party could deal with getting your money back which will save you headaches!
As for him contacting you...
Change your phone number and email and any other contact information he knows about you. CHANGE IT TODAY! Call your phone company and get a NEW number. Do not have your number published either so he wont be able to look you up!
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