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writes:There is this girl who moved into my neighborhood maybe 3 months ago. She has a huge crush on me and i am not being egotistical because she told me the other day. She always hangs out with my sister and I am unable to go twenty minutes without seeing her. I have no interest in her whatsoever other than being friends. I don't know what to say to her. How do I let her down easy without hurting her feelings or causing any problems with her and my sister?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): Why do you think you need to say anything to her? Has she asked you out or anything?
OP just because you know she has a crush doesn't mean you have to do something about it. Just leave her alone to it unless she directly asks you out or something. No need to do anything unless you are faced with that kind of decision.
And in that case you have to be honest but gentle.
I personally would say, if she ever asked me, that I would never date any of my sisters friends or any girl who even used to be her friend. Sisters friends are off limits to you. That way you completely remove any hope but without saying something that may dent her ego.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): You just avoid her as much as you can. Tell your sister that you think her friend is crushing on you, and you really don't want her to. Be polite to her, but just don't pay her any attention. The crush will wear off.
She may be using your sister to be closer to you. Your sister will eventually figure it out and spend less time with her.
You can be honest and tell her you think she's a really nice person, but you want her to spend her time just being your sister's friend. Don't be mean.
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