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writes:I am married and for whatever reason I am no longer sexual involved with my husband. Lately I’ve been turned off by him and I’ve been stressed out by him. Previously I loved having sex with him on a daily basis. He he usually turned me down and wanted to have sex 4 times a week. Now, I just don’t want to at all and he’s getting upset. I’m just not interested in him anymore Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 November 2021):
 So you made a mistake in choosing your partner. It happens. Unfortunately, you got married to him instead of just living together. Again, it happens.
Sounds like you weren't really ready to be a step-parent either. It's OK to end a marriage that is not working.
It is great when a couple has good sexual chemistry but for a relationship (or marriage) to work long term, you need more than that.
I wish you well, OP
Go live your life and your soon-to-be-ex-husband can go on and find someone who wants to be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2021): I wrote the post.
My husband, does annoying childish things. He beats on his chest sings at the top of his lungs, smacks. He will play his guitar when I have a bad migraine. He cannot spend his money right. So he is always playing catch up. On his pay day he spends his money very fast and I tell him to set something aside he says he can’t afford to but he purchased seat covers for $198. He also has a son that I’m not a fan of either to be honest. His son does a lot. There’s more to everything I will be divorcing him soon he just doesn’t know yet.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (12 November 2021):
 It sounds like you used to have a healthy sexual relationship. How long have you been feeling this way?.
You say that you are turned off by him, and also stressed by him. With limited information provided here we can only guess as to the reasons why this is, such as he has let himself go lately, put on some weight maybe, not looking after himself like he used to. If this is the case would you feel differently if he changed this.
If your just not interested in him anymore then maybe you need to ask yourself if this marriage is really for you anymore and seek legal advice on getting a divorce.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 November 2021):
I agree, there is more to this than you describe. You didn't just wake up one morning and go, Oh, I'm not feeling this anymore. Usually, there is a "trigger" or event that led to this.
Can you pinpoint when it started and what was going on in your lives/marriage at that time?
Maybe if you can figure that out, it will be easier for you to figure out the next step.
Be it marriage counseling, trial separation or divorce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2021): Care to be more specific? Is he unromantic? Does he refuse to be affectionate towards you? How long have you been married?
Why did you marry him? Just for sex?
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reader, Kofcalifornia +, writes (11 November 2021):
Im sorry to hear that you have not been interested in your husband lately. Something must have turned u off. You should figure out what it is that changed and work on correcting the issue. Are you turned off by all men or just your husband???
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