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41-50,
*ew mum
writes:I have been married for 5 years and have 1 son who is 14 months old. I have just met up with an ex who my husband has met too but the problem is I am in love with my ex and I am tempted to have an affair my ex has been around to my house afew times while my husband is at work what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Everyone gets tempted, but you don't have to...no hold on...Perhaps there is something missing in your marriage and ....erm......Actually, I can't do it. I want to be sympathetic but really. Your married and have a young child. Whilst your husband flogs his guts out every day earning the money to keep his family, some waistral ex (I mean, does he not have a job to go to?) is sniffing around and your tempted.But hey, its "love" so it's OK. But is it really love or just boredom? If it's boredom I have some sympathy but really, be an adult and impose some self discipline and maybe get a job, or do a class. If it really is love you feel for your ex, then why the hell did you marry your husband and get pregnant? Did you forget to disclose that to him before you married?Not a word about your husband mind. But who cares? He's screwed in almost any scenario because if you split, he will still have to continue to flog his guts out to pay you the money so you can sit at home and get cosy with your ex. The only difference for him is he gets to be a one night a week, one weekend in two dad and live in a crappy bedsit wondering what went wrong.You want some advice? Here it is: getting married and having a child does not make you an adult. Making serious choices and not falling for destructive self gratification makes you an adult. Bottom line? Grow up and talk to your husband now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): Hi, However hard and tempting it is you must resist and do not let into temptation. You're married and have a young son, imagine the devestation you'll cause to both their lives. I don't know what your marriage is like but if you're really not happy you need to sit down with your husband and talk things through and even be honest and tell him how you're feeling. Good luck
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