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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm trying to get back with my ex-gf and she recently told me she considers herself an "emotional cripple" and that some of the more serious conversations we've had in the past made her very uncomfortable. I thought we were just sharing on a personal level we had established.She met me after getting out of a 10-year marriage that ended when too many things were left unsaid. I sometimes wonder if it's a case of her being scared to fall in love again (something I think she even said). I KNOW that no one wants to be in a relationship where deep, almost intensly personal conversations are the norm. Looking back I think I often took them too far, too often. But then it seems in a relationship, people have to share from time to time or too many things will be left unsaid.Is there anything I can do to make her feel more comfortable expressing herself?
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I think people talk when they are ready. Sometimes if you push someone too much its not good. give it time and understanding..usually when woman feel safe and comfortable, not too mention trust you then we open up a bit more..that just takes time..some of us are more open then others but if she has been hurt or..I mean try to just enjoy what you do have..if something is wrong I am sure you will know..ask her if it is making you undcomfortable. I have the opposite..I bring things up and it gets 'tossed' so she should be happy you are a little compassionate.
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