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writes:My ex and I were in the middle of settling what he owes me. While chasing him to pay, at first he was rude in replying to my messages. So I told him that I didn't deserve to be treated that way coz I didn't do anything to him. I just wanted my money back.He replies with a much better message. So as not to seem like I am really pressuring him, I reply the next day after having thought about his proposal of paying half for this month and half next month. I agreed to it. But I told him to have someone give the money to me as I can't see him anymore. He said he will send his cousin to give me the cash and as per my request, he will give me a date when this will happen. He said "ok ___ (my name), i will give you the dates tmrw. I am with my cousins now. Text you tmrw"I didn't reply to this last message anymore. I know I am supposed to say "ok" or whatever as to agree with him as I would always do that coz he used to get upset if I didn't reply. But I decided not to reply anymore as I am no longer his GF. But until now he hasn't text me about the dates yet. It's been 3 days. Now I am confused. I want to remind him about the dates he promised but at the same time I am scared he might not like it. How should I approach him then?We broke up as enemies and somehow, even though i know there's no chance of us getting back together..the last exchange of text we had seemed to reveal that he is not angry with me anymore. I would like it to stay that way and I don't care if we don't speak to each other anymore.But how do I approach him about my money? Pls. help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow much money is it? When did he first borrow it? When was originally to be paid off? How much has been paid thus far? Were those payments on time?
Hello,
Thanks for replying, I actually don't have anyone to tell this as I know my sister will hate me if she learns my ex owe me money.
This money was actually borrowed from me months ago, I think it was September. He had to move to a new flat ASAP and pay 3 months in advance and was starting with his new job at that time. We gathered our money together.
He recovered from all of his debt by November and he keeps giving me the payment in which I told him to keep first. He really hates owing money to people and tells me he understands that money you owe should be paid as people don't harvest gold, they earn it with sweat and blood. Bad idea as I wanted to save some money and thought it would be better if he keeps it rather than me spending it. Another month later I needed some cash so he gave me half of it on the spot.
Little did I know that my relationship to him would end by May. He was so into me and would want the best for me even on financial matters. I actually can't believe he is delaying it like that. I know so much he can pay me as he did before.
Sometimes I think he is doing this to teach me a lesson. He is scared if I meet other men, I will lend them cash too. He says I should never lend them money. He also wants me to cancel my credit cards, afraid I would be tempted to buy unnecessary things. He warned me about this things when we broke up.
What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe texted me for follow-up today begging me to give him more time as he paid a big amount for his flat.
Should I ignore him or reply? and what will I say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello quiet-echo,
The amount is not negligible to both of us. I really don't know how to approach him now as I am tired to start a fight again. And I have my pride, I don't want this to seem like I am finding this as an excuse to contact him. But I just want my money back.
Thanks in advance for the reply.
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